Why Doesn't my boyfriend want to have sex with me anymore?

Guy confession: I have always gone after my girlfriend for sex, and I guess at some point she took for granted that i always wanted it and if she said no i would just try again the next day. WELL, after a month of me suggesting and trying to get things going and her just not being reciprocal (or me going down on her and then her just going to bed satisfied without returning the favor), I backed off completely: no touching, no suggesting, no flirting. and guess what? she has been asking, almost begging for sex for the last 3 weeks. and i intend to keep the dry spell until she realizes that im not a booty call for whenever she's horny. I dont know if anyone else has been in the same situation or reacted that way, but thats the way i did it, and she's desperate for it now.. It is a lovely payback!

Does he smoke? I'm not a doctor, but I can tell you from personal experience that it's a sex driver killer for men. Not only does it reduce motivation for sex (and just about anything that doesn't involve sitting on his @$$), it also reduces blood circulation, which "softens" up the sex drive, if you know what I mean.

I also have a boyfriend that I have been dating for almost two years. We have had a rocky relationship but no matter what we face he doesn't want to brake up. I have been expressing to him my need for more sex for a long time. We currently have sex 1 or 2 times a month and usually its when we are really drunk. He doesn't know how to explain his lack of interest he just keeps on telling me "later babe, later". He could be cheating on me, anything is possible but, ouch, he would have to be really cruel to tell me he's not becuase I ask him all the time. I don't want to believe that he's the next tiger woods. I work out, I buy cute panties and try to seduce him all the time. I would just appreciate a pity hook up. I just know that its not me. He has agreed to take something from gnc that will increase his libido. Do you think time apart will straighten all this out. Absense makes the heart grow fonder.

This is so much like what im going through. I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half, and things started great. We'd have sex twice a day every day i saw him, and then it dropped to once a month then to none at all, and it's been that way for 2 months now. It's not like he doesn't love me anymore, im moving in with him in a few months when my lease is up and he talks about the future between us. It's tearing me apart though that he wont have sex with me. he's more then happy to have me work him off, but even if i ask he wont sleep with me. I really have no clue what to do. i mean everyone says to communicate, but i know he knows how much i want him, and it still gets me no where. Im at my ends here

i have the same problem and i don´t know what to do anymore. i never had much self confidence but now i am on my lowest point.i feel ugly and disgusting and i just wanna lock myself in a dark room and never come out again. i have millions of other problems and i want at least my relationship to be good. i always wished so bad for a good relationship with enough sex that is fun and satisfying. everything is actually fine to me apart from that he simply does not wanna have sex with me. i get rejected all the time and its hurting me so bad. i think i just don´t turn him on in any way even tho he says i am perfect to him. i don´t believe it. if i was perfect to him he would want me and would want to sleep with me. its depressing me so bad that i started to take meds a few months ago to. i don´t know how long i can take this. its just totally crushing me. i want him and he is turning me on so bad. hes just so sexy to me.i constantly see him around and i am not allowed to touch him in a sexual way. that is just pure torture for me.i think he is just unhappy with me and got bored of me :(

I read through a few pages of this post and a lot of what im seeing is women who MAY be pushing their guy away by being so needy about sex.
Look, you girls talk about needy guys all the time, but you can be just as guilty of it. If you are one of these girls who says things like "I want it so bad but when I talk to him about it he just gets distant" or something similar you might just ask yourself how you would feel if you were in his shoes. Forget about what how he "should" feel about sex and the frequency of sex. I dont care how old the guy is, if a girl is putting on the pressure there is a huge potential to go into denial mode (like when a salesmen asks you do you like " xyz"? and you say NO even though you may have no preference, you say no because you can FEEL him wanting to get a hook in you, so you deny everything you think he wants). I'm not sure if i'm putting this in a way that is easily understood, feel free to ask for clarification if any or all of this makes no sense to you. Anyway this is just my opinion on why some of you may be having this issue. And I would like to point out that it doesnt have to be a big problem, and it doesnt make you a horrible person. I'm not trying to attack anyone, just give an objective opinion.

Hey Evan. My boyfriend and I have been together off and on for two yrs now. Last January we were living together and engaged. Since then we have broken up, moved out, and we are no longer engaged, but we are still together. We spend every single night together, and have been for months. He smokes pot every day and I rarely see him sober, EVER. He is 24 and in a band, he puts the band, his "career", although he has also a full time job, and smoking pot before me constantly. I am a 23 yr old single mother, and he is mildly bi-polar, which does seem to effect our relationship a lot. He has become very distant the past couple of months, less affectionate and every time we've had sex Ive initiated it, although Ive been turned down on MANYYYY occasions and maybe 4 times, maybe 5 times in the past two months we have made love. He always says he is "too tired" or he says that he feels too "fat" too. He is a very attractive guy and has put on 10 pounds over the winter, you cannot even tell a difference. I am almost 100% sure he is not cheating, he works from 9am-6 or 7pm every night, has band practice then comes straight over, doesnt own a car and lives the next street over from me. I'm not trying to sound conceited but I am a good looking girl as well and he tells me he is still attracted to me but then why the lack of affection? It makes me feel unwanted, I want so badly to be wanted. I am giving and getting nothing in return romantically. I didnt get anything for Valentines day, he slept all day and the next night he took me to dinner and a movie. He picked HIS movie, I couldnt watch mine, although it was "my (LATE) v-day gift" and he got high the SECOND we walked into the house and practically ignored me the rest of the night! Help!!

this sucks. im in the same boat.

I am having the same problem in a way.. i am 25 yrs old and i have been dating my boyfriend for 10 months now. at first sex was great we had it all the time but then i got pregnant right away i am about to deliver our baby on the 23rd of this month and my boyfriend refuses to have sex with me. we moved in together after dating for 4 months. he is 28 yrs old and im not sure if its because he went from being a single man doing whatever he wants to do to a man living a family life. i have a 18 month old son already that calls him daddy and he takes care of my son as if he was his own. it has been almost 3 months now since i have had sex with my boyfriend and it is just tearing me apart. he dont spend time with me on his days off from work he comes home and sleeps the entire day away and wakes up in the middle of the night when he knows im asleep.. when we do finally have sex i can tell he dont want to and half the time he cant even keep it up for longer than 5 minutes. he swears that it is because i am pregnant and my belly keeps getting in the way but we switched it up so that my belly wouldnt even be touching him let alone facing him and still it wont stay up.. i have went from being a strong confident woman to a woman with very little self-esteem.. i keep accusing him of cheating because when we first started dating he made it very clear that he is a very sexual person but yet he wont have sex with me anymore... can a man really go from being super sexual to barely having sex ever? or is he out there cheating on me?