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The start of my most recent period was on Feb 26 - projected ovulation date being March 14, projected next period March 28 (via MyMonthlyCycles, where I have been keeping track of my period for 1 year). Average cycle - 30 days.
We had protected intercourse on March 3 and 24. The condom didn't break; slipped down maybe an inch but we pushed it right back up.
Now my period is 3 or 4 days late (depending if you count the 28th), with no usual signs of cramping etc that I normally get. Took two HPT's and both came out negative. Discharge looks normal, no tenderness of breasts or anything. I have had a little bit of an upset stomach but I think I may just be getting sick - I am under quite a bit of stress.
I know it's unlikely that I am pregnant, but I am paranoid since I can't afford to have a child right now. I have heard that stress really can throw off a regular period (I have been regular for 8 years now), but I have a hard time believing it since I am so paranoid... help? I don't know what's wrong with me!
Have a GYNO appt coming up in a month, but I'm the type of person who likes to know without going to the doc! It sure would be nice if my period would come!
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finally today im doing my period,,thanks for supporting me and give me advice,i would like to appreciated it very much..Next time i will be more carefull..huhhh,wat a relief.....thanks very much diane!!!....and empoher....
April 6, 2010 - 5:57amThis Comment
Here,its me 18,i just might scared that im get pregnant.3 weeks ago i had not exactly doing sex-intercourse with him,his penis was in contact with my outside vagina,he exactly try to trust on his inside me.but it just for few seconds because it badly painful for me when he try to keep trusting towards me[and im sure im stil doing my virgin] and im avoiding it for him to doing it so,after thet we just doing oral sex and he penerated outside.but now,it been two weeks i late for my periods to come,and before this i also not the type of women who always had regular periods.And ago i ever missed my periods for a month and two,but it a few years ago.i just so scared something might happen to me,because i just so scared if that time his sperm got on me,but i dont feel great moist maybe,but,i just so scared if he pre-ejaculated on me.help me,,-scared
March 30, 2010 - 6:58amThis Comment
Hi, Anon,
Welcome to EmpowHer. Let's see if we can help a bit.
I want to be sure I understand your question correctly.
Three weeks ago you were with your boyfriend and while he tried to thrust inside you, he stopped because it hurt. Is that right?
And since then, you have only done oral sex?
I'm not sure by what you mean when you say "he only penetrated outside." Has your boyfriend ever ejaculated on the opening of your vagina (even if you are still a virgin inside?)
And you say you are usually not regular with your periods, right? Is it common for you to go a week or two late?
It is possible that some pre-ejaculate did get on you and that it could have made its way up through the opening in the hymen (the tissue that is broken when you have sex and are no longer a virgin). But it's not likely. Have you been under a lot of stress since this happened? Stress is enough to make a period go very late or even to make you skip a period, did you know that?
May I ask why your boyfriend does not wear a condom when you are intimate like this? Since it is clear that you do not want to become pregnant, it is the best way to make sure of that.
Did I understand your questions correctly? Is this any help?
April 1, 2010 - 8:25amThis Comment
he trying to trust on me,but exactly i dont let him done it,and it just happened for a few seconds.and for sure he dont ejaculated outside my vagina,because we doing oral sex without effecting our genital after that.but in here i'm just more scared that something might happen with me,ya get pregnant is not easy for me im very doing my paranoid now.Because i ever heard that if sperm got on the vulva,the women might get pregnant,and i know the percentage is not very high but it also can happen.in here,i just feel worried since before if he did pre-ejaculated aroud my vagina.I did ask him and he convince me that he didnt even ejaculated on me.For my relieve,i take home pregnancy test after 2 weeks 6 days it happened,AND it negative.Since after that things happened i really doing my stress,and i try to convinced myself that it just because of my hormone changed.Otherwise i also dont had a regular periods before this.On december 28-2009 i had my periods and it ends in 3rd january 2010.In feb my period was on day 11..and exactly im with him at the night on 11 march..and now,i just want to resure that everthing is alright with me..
April 5, 2010 - 6:15amThis Comment
Hello,
March 24, 2010 - 3:56pmMy girlfriend has a historically irregular cycle, but i'm starting to worry some. We have protected intercourse roughly 2 times a week. After each act, i inspect the condom to make sure and have never found any rips/tears, etc. A few weeks ago we had an incident that the condom slipped off slightly and was left inside her. We immediately removed it and did not finish. She has been under alot of stress lately (trying to find a permanent job, fighting with a roomate, and now being somewhat late). Today she will be 8 days late. She has said that she has gotten her regular cramping and feels that things could begin at any moment, but this has been going on for 4-5 days. She is also currently on a vacation with her family (in a different time zone) and is making this that much harder that we are not near each other. Is this something that I should be concerned about or are our minds getting the best of us?
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Hi, Anon,
It sounds like when you had the incident when the condom slipped off that you did not ejaculate, am I right? And so all that might have been inside it was some pre-ejaculate?
From the way you explain it, I don't think that you should be too worried. First of all, she's got an irregular cycle. Second, the amount of stress she's under definitely can cause a period to go late (or even be skipped) due to how the stress hormones affect our regular hormones. And third, you mention that the episode was "a few weeks ago," which sounds to me that it was longer ago than she would have been ovulating.
One can never know for sure, of course. And I'm sure this is hard on both of you. While there is a small chance that some of the pre-ejaculate escaped and could cause a pregnancy, it sounds like it's a very small chance. My advice would be for your girlfriend to try to decrease her stress (traveling doesn't help, I know) and not focus on this so much. I know how much easier that is to say than to do, but it will help. Tell her to enjoy her vacation and to relax, and breathe. I'm betting that your minds are getting the best of you and that her period will arrive sometime in the next week or so.
April 1, 2010 - 8:19amThis Comment
Marvin,
It's not really abnormal. It would be impossible for us to say for sure what's going on, but what we can tell you is that women do sometimes go very late on their periods and they do sometimes even skip a period. So those things ARE possible.
It is also possible that somehow, someway, some sperm got into her vagina. I know you examined the condom and were very careful, so I wouldn't think that this would be the case, but if she is still worried about it, she can take another pregnancy test and she'll know for absolute certainty that that's not what is going on.
If she doesn't have a period in another week or so, she may want to make a doctor's appointment just to be certain that all is well. Is she having any symptoms? Pain or bloating, fatigue or tenderness around her breasts?
January 22, 2010 - 9:07amThis Comment
Hey this is Marvin once again. I brought foward my current issue I am having a couple of weeks ago. My girl frend took your advice and took a pregnant test about a week after my last reply and it came out negative. However, it's been past the 10 days that you said she would be likely to get her period. So now I am confused with what's going on. I know she cannot be pregnant because there were no holes visible in the condom and I didn't get ejaculate anywhere near her vignia. So what could be the possible reasons for her very much delayed period? Is this abnormal?
January 20, 2010 - 9:55amThis Comment
Hello,
I am 18 years old, and my period is about 2 weeks late. I am freaking out.
January 20, 2010 - 12:34amI am known to have irregular periods, but I don't always keep track of them. On average, I would say it's about a 35-day cycle, but since I don't keep track, I can't be sure.
Anyways, I had protected sex with my boyfriend with a condom on the 5th (the day I was expecting my period) and again on the 9th. He ejaculated inside me - again, he was wearing a condom - and am now 2 weeks late.
I should have ovulated right around the time when the holidays were; however, I worked quite a lot during those weeks and always came home tired and exhausted. Could the stress from working cause a period to be this late? My last period was on the 1st of December, I believe. Please help me!
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Yes, yes, yes. The stress of the holidays and working and your extreme fatigue absolutely can affect your hormones and therefore your period. It happens a lot. And with irregular cycles like yours, it could be even more likely to be affected.
Our hormones -- estrogen, progesterone, testosterone and others -- perform a dance with each other over the course of the month. They increase and decrease depending where you are in the month, causing your uterus to build up tissue in case an egg is fertilized, then causing you to ovulate, then causing your body to expel that extra tissue if no egg implants, which causes your period. So if things happened back in December that affected those hormones (like your work and fatigue), the whole "dance" could easily have been delayed. Or you may not even have ovulated.
From how you describe your use of the condoms, you should have been protected. Do you think that taking a home pregnancy test would help relieve the anxiety?
January 22, 2010 - 9:01amThis Comment