Why Doesn't my boyfriend want to have sex with me anymore?

i had no idea women could be sex starved until i met my partner... i fell deeply in love with him, & I though he was in love with me too... everything moved fast for us, real fast, baby fast, we have a daughter... needless to say no more sex for about a year...with few sparse attempts... i'm thinner than before i was pregnant now... but the lack of passion is what kills me the most. i don't want to fade out like the rest of zombies settling life...don't know if he loves me, not sure if i love him anymore. gotta figure out something fast.

So, I am a 24 year old straight male. I stumbled upon this after seeing "My boyfriend stopped having sex with me, why?" In my google search bar in the top right of the computer screen. Seems that my GF is consulting my computer rather than talking to me directly about it. Lame. I'm am now hoping, after reading a lot of your posts in here that I may be able to shed some light on this type of situation, or at least my reason(s) for lack of interest in intercourse. First off, let me fill you in on some details. We've been together for about three years now, living together for about two and recently had a baby. While it was unexpected, it is certainly not a regret of mine nor hers. Our relationship like most, started out primarily based around sex before growing into more.
So before I go any further I'd like to say just for the record, I'm not gay and I'm not cheating, nor did I at any point cheat or consider homosexuality.

As far as my situation goes, it really boils down to the energy that is being given vs. the energy that is being received. There must be some form of balance or else one party will feel like they are bored and taken for granted. In which case that said party will lose interest and the sex WILL die. It could go either way.

I am always trying to move forward with life. I have goals, dreams, ambition, aspiration and skill. I work hard and I play hard. I have many hobbies and interests. I cook, I clean, I spend time with the baby and I pay for pretty much everything.
My GF doesn't seem to be interested in much of anything other than face book and the baby. Fine.

Here's my breaking point. (Note: There is always a breaking point, figure it out and you'll probably not be so stumped as to why you aren't getting any)

We went out for some drinks a few weeks ago at about 11pm. a couple of hours went by and I told her that I'd like to go home seeing as how the baby was with a baby sitter. She said okay, I have to pee, be right back. I wait outside for her for half an hour. I got sick of it and went to the car. Two hours later she comes out of the bar wasted, gets in the car and tells me we have to go home.
We get home, I get ready for bed (I have to work in the morning)and she decides she's pissed at me because I'm being a d*ck and decides to sleep in the spare bedroom. Fine. At six AM the baby wakes up to eat. She then stumbles her drunk a** into the bedroom and attempts to feed the baby! WTF? who is this person? so, I take the baby, feed her a bottle, meanwhile the GF is screaming at me. Telling me how much of a fag I am and that I don't do anything, and I can't pay rent and this, that and the other. WTF? who is this person?? The next day she acts like nothing ever happened. I don't know if she just didn't remember or if she's just that self centered. I didn't talk to her all day. finally she asked what was wrong, so I told her what she had done and that it was completely uncalled for and hurt my feelings. She left the room for a minute came back to smoke a cig and that was that. No apology, nothing. And you wonder why I won't F*ck you?? Not only do you not do anything/contribute but you get down on me for busting my a** and paying your way?? I don't think so.

So, to all of you that typed in "my boyfriend stopped having sex with me, Why?"
Take a step back and try to figure out why he might have stopped putting in effort. I almost guarantee that it has something to do with the way that you treat him.
Or, hey maybe it is because he cheated on you. But there is probably a reason for that too.
It doesn't just all the sudden happen for no reason.

try being with someone for nearly 6 years and then suddenly he decidedes he cant be bothered to have sex with me. im actually thinking about leaving him. we have a lot going on with finances,but he doesnt seem to show hes bothered with that,i know hes not playing away.i even asked him outright if he still fancied me-and he answered ofcourse. infact the only time he wants to try it with me is when i ask him why he wont or doesnt have the urge, then i wont let him because why should i have sex with him out of pity of me? he doesnt even seem to know me anymore so it looks like hes lost interest in me,and as sad as it seems , if hes not satisfiying me then my needs are not met, and why should i go without? and because of this im falling out of love with him. sex is an importnant part of bonding in a relationship and without it the love is fading away

there are a lot of reasons why men lose libido.... stress, loss of testosterone due to supplements/diet (steroid use or coming off as well). what you need to be able to do is talk to your partner about it openly. express that you are feeling like there has been a change. ask if everything is ok. i was in the same situation. my boyfriend is a bodybuilder, and due to diet and 'supplement' changes the testosterone levels in his body dropped after the stress of competing. this absolutely KILLED our sex life and i thought it was ME!! i simply asked if everything was ok, and put it on me. asking if i should try new things or if he had suggestions. his response was very clearly it was nothing to do with ME and I KNOW there is no one else as we are best friends and spend most of our time together and live together. every single other aspect of our lives is PERFECT!!! turns out, between work, the 'off' season and no longer competing, money issues and the amount of housework were all contributing factors to his stress.

we want to believe that our men are strong and confiedent. truth is they are but they too have body issues and stresses.

my solution: i constantly gave him little reassurances. told him he's sexy. perfect. appreciate all he does for 'us' and our relationship. picked up my end of the house keeping a little bit and contributed a wee bit more.... so in the end... he didn't have SO much to do when he got home at the end of the day.... which left more time for...... :o)

i'm happy to say with a little patience and communication... express how important a healthy sex life is and that you are feeling insecure. all can be solved. ladies just be patient. encourage and support your man and try to ease his load a bit. and INITIATE!!! you'll notice that with a bit of effort for HIM and you will get the juices flowing again....

dont feel neglected. and withdraw and pout. focus on the good in the relationship. be grateful for all the great things he DOES bring to the relationship. you will notice before long that your problem has disintigrated!

happy manifesting!

I have been dating this guy for 3 months today. I love to have sex more than anyone i know, and he knew that before we started dating cuz i warned him. the first month, it was once a day for mostly the whole month. the next month...well he had problems with drugs and was lying to me the whole time we were dating about being on them. finally came clean. last week on saturday we had a problem doing it, failed attempt in the bed cuz he had to pee, ten min later we tried the shower, failed attempt 2 cuz he said water was too cold, then we finally did an impressive 1 minute long romp before he had to go to work which in turn made him late. and on tuesday i needed to get my car fixed, i wasn't worried about getting to town cuz i knew a half an hour here or there wasn't goin to be a problem. but he said we were too busy and had stuff to do. y would he go n do it before work, but not do it when we possibly could have had longer time. All he does now for a week is tease me, and then rolls over n goes to bed. and he wonders why i'm so whiny. i don't understand, is it because he is off the drugs now and he can't get mr bendy up? or is it cuz of me? maybe i'm pressing too hard. i don't know, but i have ptsd and sex is a way for me to deal with it, and he won't give it to me. i'm very frustrated, if you can't tell by how much i'm freaking out over not even a week of no sex. but with him teasing me n then rolling over...what a jerk.