Why Doesn't my boyfriend want to have sex with me anymore?

I dated my now husband for 3 years before we got married. For the first couple of times we had average sex but it did not work out. he was always too tired for sex most of the times but super energectic for video games/movies etc. We had sex once every 2 weeks or so. I left him after dating him for 2 months because there was no sex in the relationship. During our seperation i met somebody and we had the best chemistry ever and we had sex for 4-5 hours everyday but i did not love him and dont think he did either. Compensation i guess ;). My boyfriend begged me back in his life and i was back with him (loong story) but our sex life did not chnage..once every 2-3 months. we broke up and made up like 5 times and then we got married. he promised to see a therapist after marriage. I thought may be he was low on tetestrone or something. after 6 months of marriage we seeked counselling and he promised he would fix things but he did not!!! it has been 3 years since we have been married and it is has improved to once a month!!!!! (from once in 3 months). After all this i dont even find him attractive.

My advise to all people is: If your SEX life ain't working run for the hills and DONT look back. Even LOVE caanot glue two people together if their sex life is a disaster!!.

Disclaimer: This applies to men who are too conceited to accept that there could be anything wrong with them and in turn ruin other people's lives.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years and I'm constantly having to ask for sex, he tells me he doesn't like when it's my idea, but its never his idea so what do I do? In the begenning we did it like 3 times a day now I'm lucky if I get it once a week, I know hes not cheating because I'm with him 24/7. I hope its not because hes not sexually attracted to me anymore, he says it isn't, that it's not me it's him, or he doesn't know why, it's really annoying and sometimes pisses me off let alone hurts my feelings, I guess us women will never understand men.

I think this happens to guys more than we think.. It seems a very common issue. I'm going through the same bullshit, no sex for me and I want to punch a wall I'm so horny. The worst is hearing about friends and their fantastic sex lives, or women with "insatiable" boyfriends. Words cannot even describe how jealous I am.

i don't know how to talk about this with my him. i dont want him to do it just to stop me from thinking/talking about it. i am kind of tired of always being the one who initiate.. i miss the closeness, not the sex.