Why Doesn't my boyfriend want to have sex with me anymore?

I have been with my husband for six years and our sex life has been great and then sometimes not so great. I think there are a lot of factors that effect this. I know when I'm feeling stressed at work or about money I do not have a very good sex drive. Or if I am feeling a bit depressed. maybe your boyfriend has troubles dealing with stress or has some sort of depression he doesn't even know he has. I'm not ruling out cheating but if you love each other you should trust him until you know for sure of an indiscretion . The best way to deal with this is to talk about it and let him know how your feeling. Maybe you can help him through what he is dealing with

Anonymous,

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Let's get to the root of the problem with your husband though...what's going on?

I want it so badly! My husband has lost every interest in sex. I feel like the man in our relationship from the start. please help! I'm thinking of suicide now and then.

No it isn't always about sex but don't see it as just sex see it as something intimate that you do only with the person you love. Not to get all romantic or whatever but it is meant to be something mind blowing that you do with the person you deem worthy and who feels the same about you. It's like over using the word love, it loses meaning, whereas with one special person it means alot! It's not orgasm tallying...its i want you so much, i want to be close to you and do something that makes you feel good!

I have the same problem, my boyfriend does love me, kisses me and jokes with me like we always did. But our sex has changed, we used to do it a lot and he used to always want it and now i haven't had sex in 2 months, i'm not craving for sex but sex is important. He has told me nothing is wrong and its not me, i dont know but the fact that he doesnt want me disturbs me, its making me bitter towards him sometimes. I just want him to want me again....

its not all about sex.............

Well i thought it wouldn't get better but it is slowly. After our talk the other night where i explained how hurt i was and how confused, he couldn't explain exactly why it was but he is really trying to be more attentive and to bear in my mind my needs. You may feel guilty for saying something that could bruise his ego but if he loves you then he will take it into consideration. Just make it clear when you talk about it, that if he had an issue with something to do with you that you would be open to listening and working through it too. Hope this helps.

this was really helpful. my boyfriend got a new job 2 months ago that takes up a lot of his time and the last time we ever had sex was the day before he got the job. i was really offended that he didn't feel like having sex anymore and i thought he was unattracted to me all of a sudden after 2 years. I guess he just cant handle the stress of working and keeping up with class and housework. I'm wondering if it will ever stop though and if we'll ever be physically intimate again?

My boyfriend and i have been together for about a year and a half now and honestly he is 99.9% perfect. The problem is that he has lost interest in sex and i know exactly what you guys have been saying about trying to touch him, trying to seduce him and being rejected. I was a very sexual person with a really high drive but now i get really shaky whenever i even think about trying to initiate sex. It's so embarrassing when he laughs off your intentions as though the whole idea of touching me was a joke. We've tried talking about it but he just goes defensive, i've tried to find out what causes this (stress, depression, lack of interest, am i doing something wrong). Before i met him i was pretty damn carefree where sex was concerned but now i'm hurting so bad. I spent alot of money on new lingerie, i've tried wearing the things he likes, i've cooked him meals and given him backrubs, just taken care of him. Last night he surprised me in the bathroom and i thought say no otherwise it will last 5 minutes and that'll be it, he won't take care of me. I gave in, we had sex...it lasted 5 minutes and then he ignored me for the rest of the night. It hurt so much i pretty much felt like my heart had been broken. I tihnk my demands/needs will ruin our relationship and i'm so scared.

I am only 13, but sex is my life....i have had a few boyfriends and they all pressured me to sex, thats how i like it, but its painful sometimes....and some people say i have to suck their penis before doing it....it sounds gross, but i tried it....and i liked it and so did he....and well anyways, here is my question....after i do it, white stuff comes out. what is it?
oh and also do i have to put a lubricant in my vagina? does it hurt?
ps he does wear a condom