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Can i get pregnant without deep penetration?

By July 9, 2009 - 4:55am
 
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Hi, I'm 23 years old lady and I'm still a virgin. I have a bf and we've been together for more than 4 years. We never had 'real' penetration or sexual intercourse (saving it for the marriage). But today we made out and he only put his tip into me (only like half an inch to an inch) but did not cum in me. I am just a little concerned and went online to search for answers, and some people even mentioned that with what i've done, i'm actually not a virgin anymore! but no pain no blood flow happened.

Anyway, my question is, will i get pregnant this way? isit really true that if sperm was only near the vagina, i will get pregnant?

only supportive and real answers please.. i know i shud've used contraception, but it was our first time, and we didn't really planned for it to happen.

thanks..

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I had sex with my bf on my last day of period, i still have little blood coming out of me, he cummed inside me, then the nex t day I dont have blood anymore, he cummed inside me again.. im usually 31-37 menstrual cycle.. what are my chances of getting pregnant? and how long does the sperm stays inside me? will it stay till my next ovulation? help me please :'(

February 22, 2013 - 9:34am
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Anonymous

thanks for your advise always. I was at a party and lots of us were pretty drunk. well I had sex with an older women that was breast feeding still
two questions, she had me sucking milk from her breast and then she squirted it all over me, is that safe? we didnt use a condom cause she said while breast feeding she cant get pregnant. is that true or she be worried
i ejaculated at least 2 times inside her. thanks

January 13, 2013 - 6:35pm
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Anonymous

Well I am thinking about having sex with this guy I really like. He doesn't like wearing condoms, though, because he says it takes away feeling from the sexual experience. I don't want to get pregnant because I am only 14. but I don't want to disappoint him. Is there any way I can have sex without getting pregnant, by not using a condom?

January 13, 2013 - 5:07pm
(reply to Anonymous)

actually you can still have your hymen fully in so you still could be a virgin.
BUT at 14, i know you think are old enough but even your body is not old enough to give birth safely. I hope you take time to read about giving birth at such a young age and if you are not using condom..well risk for life at really at risk.
I mean if you are honest with yourself is it worth it to get HIV and possibly Aids ..no matter which one and have to take cocktail of drugs daily. Plus what about STD's that you might not have signs and they can destroy your chance of every having child.
My younger sister has sex about your age and i am positive that it was one of things that has caused her to have low self esteem as well as other behavioral issues....enough were she has been in and out of mental wards for much of her adult life.
I waited till i was adult and knew the guy was in love with me. He did not pressure me at all. In fact he was ready to wait longer or as long as i needed. So when it did happen it was a very happy positive experience.
Bottom line there is no way to have sex safely with out using condom. He can get them at health dept or Planned Parent hood( think on this one) or he can go buy one....he can at least do that for you...you should also use a spermicide to make it safer in case condom breaks or he does not put it on right away.
Just with all STD out there...having sex with out a condom is like playing Russian Roulette with your body and life.

March 9, 2013 - 11:46pm
(reply to Anonymous)

actually you can still have your hymen fully in so you still could be a virgin.
BUT at 14, i know you think are old enough but even your body is not old enough to give birth safely. I hope you take time to read about giving birth at such a young age and if you are not using condom..well risk for life at really at risk.
I mean if you are honest with yourself is it worth it to get HIV and possibly Aids ..no matter which one and have to take cocktail of drugs daily. Plus what about STD's that you might not have signs and they can destroy your chance of every having child.
My younger sister has sex about your age and i am positive that it was one of things that has caused her to have low self esteem as well as other behavioral issues....enough were she has been in and out of mental wards for much of her adult life.
I waited till i was adult and knew the guy was in love with me. He did not pressure me at all. In fact he was ready to wait longer or as long as i needed. So when it did happen it was a very happy positive experience.
Bottom line there is no way to have sex safely with out using condom. He can get them at health dept or Planned Parent hood( think on this one) or he can go buy one....he can at least do that for you...you should also use a spermicide to make it safer in case condom breaks or he does not put it on right away.
Just with all STD out there...having sex with out a condom is like playing Russian Roulette with your body and life.

March 9, 2013 - 11:46pm
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Anonymous

Okay, im 14 and me and my boyfriend were going to do it, we did not have a condom and he swears up and down he was dry. he's 16. anyways im a virgin and when he put it in he says it bent and i made him stop bcs it hurt so bad, it didn't last more than 45 seconds, i know im not a virgin anymore but i was molested this year in april and when i told my mom she made me get a pregnancy test, luckily, it was neg. but she hates him (we were dating) but i really like this guy and i dont want to lose him, he says he'll get one for me bcs its better safe than sorry, but i need help and i dont want to go to my mom. my period should start dec. 29 thru january . I started my period 2 years ago, but ive never been regular for some reason. im so scared please help!!!

December 29, 2012 - 12:48pm
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Anonymous

I have a question. its not my first time to have sex. I had sex with my bf 4days after my period and it bleeded. we always use condom. I dont know why and it doesnt have that mestruation odor. then I had sex with him again 4 days after and it bleeded again. it doesnt have that mestruation odor too. it really hurts whenever he pute it in, feels like my first always. what does that mean? Im scared... Plus his "tool" is really big... Its not yet my fertile cycle... coz I usually have 31-32 days menstruation cycle... we always use condom... what does that mean. please help me.:(

December 22, 2012 - 9:17am
(reply to Anonymous)

he obviously is not waiting till your body is ready is one possibility...so he literally is causing tears which explains bleeding. Is it bright red blood when menstrual is more darker color since it is old. Also how much are you bleeding? if it is enough to wear pad than i would definitely have it checked out by your OB-GYN doctor or Nurse.
I think this is another reason why one should wait a bit until their bodies are done developing....both your mind and body.
Please see a doctor and talk it over as it could be many other reasons as well that would need medical attention.

February 1, 2013 - 11:39pm
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Anonymous

My gf and i use protection now after we had a scare from not using it. We had protected sex, but the condom may have been too big for me and after i ejaculated we just layed about with me in her. when i took my penis out the condom had slipped off in her. is there a chance some sperm got out of it and inside her. she douched after to clean and said that should wash it out
I dont want any children
please help

December 20, 2012 - 3:26am
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Anonymous

I have a question. its not my first time to have sex. I had sex with my bf 2 days after my period and it bleeded. I dont know why and it doesnt have that mestruation odor. then I had sex with him again 4 days after and it bleeded again. it doesnt have that mestruation odor too. it really hurts whenever he pute it in, feels like my first always. what does that mean? Im scared... Plus his "tool" is really big... Its not yet my fertile cycle... coz I usually have 31-32 days menstruation cycle... what does that mean. please help me.:(

December 19, 2012 - 11:57pm
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