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What turns on women? For the most part, it’s no big secret. If a man works to create a strong connection with the woman in his life, she will be turned on. Below are more examples of what turns on all kinds of women.
Being Close
The biggest turn on for a woman is feeling emotionally close to her partner. It’s not the fancy car or money in bank. While men generally look at the external, most women look inside. She wants a soul mate, someone she connects with on all levels.
A Good Listener
Women are turned on by men who listen and pay attention. If a woman feels her concerns are important to her man, she will more likely desire intimacy. Women don’t usually want to get physical with men who dismiss their concerns.
Treats Her with Respect
Treat a woman with respect and she’ll be far more willing to get cozy. A man who speaks disrespectfully may find his partner’s enthusiasm for intimacy has decreased.
Verbal Reassurance
Women are verbal creatures. They need occasional reassurances they are important to their men. A big turn on for a woman is to hear loving words whispered in her ear.
Good Hygiene
Down and dirty doesn’t cut it for many women. This may seem obvious but some men overlook it and then wonder why their partner avoids intimacy.
Men Who Act Like Men
A woman respects a man who has emotional strength. With pressures increasing on women to work, raise children and take care of the home, a big turn on is a man strong enough to shoulder some of the load.
Men Who Make Love in a Leisurely Manner
Those who spend time mastering the art of love-making are who women want to be with the most. Men who take time beforehand to help her relax will lead to mutual fun.
Excellent Kissers
A man who knows how to kiss will get much further. Women are not fans of men who slobber or don’t know what to do with their tongues.
The Right Kind of Attitude
Men who have the right attitude, and don’t take things for granted, will impress the heck out of women.
Sense of Humor
A sense of humor is a big turn on for many women. Men, who are comfortable enough to laugh at themselves and not take things too seriously, are very attractive to women.
Stacy Lloyd is a writer and video producer in Phoenix, Arizona. A former television news journalist, she covered stories around the world. Currently, she produces corporate and non-profit videos and broadcast programming.
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This article made me think a lot.
June 5, 2010 - 2:09amI have been with my boyfriend for 9 months now.
The thing that bother me, is that every two or three week, he would said tell me, that he fell in love to me all over again..what is that supposed to mean. that in the meantime he wansn`t?
Or I get the odd message from him saying "I just felt this rush of love for you like I haven`t in a long time".
I don`t want to assume anything, or create a drama, so far I haven`t said anything..I wanted to ask you guys first, if is my mind playing tricks on me, or is him playing games.
Is his behaviour normal??
Thanks!!
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You're overthinking it. He's just thinking about you.
For the love of all that is beautiful, stop turning things that mean absolutely nothing into drama because your insecurity-riddled brain might have heard something that in some contorted way might mean your boyfriend doesn't love you. He just told you he loves you, for heaven's sake.
July 5, 2010 - 1:59amThis Comment
Thanks for the article Stacey, you should post this on a guy's website. I work with a lot of women and my closest client who I consider one of my dearest friends is a woman in her 50's. She has taught me a lot about really listening to what women want and paying attention to the little things.
June 4, 2010 - 5:32amSome times I remind myself that a woman needs to hear reassurance.
Thanks!
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I sometimes feel disconnected from my spouse as he very seldomly acts as if he remembers the special things between us. He does not remember our anniversary-maybe better said-doesn't celebrate it with me often. When I give him a gift and card - he sometimes opens them and then often leaves them unopened for a while. I think this is because he doesn't get me anything and says "I forgot".
May 11, 2010 - 8:38pmI did get a tree pruner for Christmas once and this last year I got a leaf blower. I once asked for a beautiful diamond heart necklace and took him to Sears to look at it. I didn't get the necklace but he gave me jewelry cleaner. I practically pulled the box apart which contained the jewelry cleaner-looking for the necklace. When he asked me what I was looking for--I told him. He then gave me another box and it was a blow dryer. Gee. He is a hard worker but very far from being romantic. He did not want to do anything for our 25 wedding anniversary unless we vacationed with the children. That actually helped because I knew it would not be much fun it were just us two.
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Hi Boston,
I think many woman can relate to your story! I am also married to a man who is not a good "gift-giver", despite years of different "tactics" on my part! We openly talk about it now; I did go through a hard time with hurt feelings or wondering if he really cared. Now that we are able to talk about it...he has so much anxiety about getting the perfect gift, that he stumbles on getting any gift at all. Is this an excuse on his part? Perhaps. I think the most important part of a relationship is compromise, and if you are feeling loved, cherished, nurtured and desired in other ways, then the "perfect" gift on the "perfect" occasion does not matter as much. If you are not feeling these things in the relationship, then even the perfect romantic gift would not fulfill the deeper needs for long.
Can you tell us: are you feeling disconnected from your spouse in many other ways, or is it primarily about the gifts? Are you able to compromise on gift giving and gift receiving? What has your husband said about this topic?
May 11, 2010 - 10:01pmThis Comment