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Hi Boston,
I think many woman can relate to your story! I am also married to a man who is not a good "gift-giver", despite years of different "tactics" on my part! We openly talk about it now; I did go through a hard time with hurt feelings or wondering if he really cared. Now that we are able to talk about it...he has so much anxiety about getting the perfect gift, that he stumbles on getting any gift at all. Is this an excuse on his part? Perhaps. I think the most important part of a relationship is compromise, and if you are feeling loved, cherished, nurtured and desired in other ways, then the "perfect" gift on the "perfect" occasion does not matter as much. If you are not feeling these things in the relationship, then even the perfect romantic gift would not fulfill the deeper needs for long.

Can you tell us: are you feeling disconnected from your spouse in many other ways, or is it primarily about the gifts? Are you able to compromise on gift giving and gift receiving? What has your husband said about this topic?