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Frottage/ outercourse STI/STDs risks

By March 6, 2018 - 2:31pm
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More than two months ago and (a week before my period) I engaged in an outercourse/frottage, with a young and healthy looking guy. More specifically we had some grinding without any clothes and without any condom on, no penetration, at most - he poked me with his penis. His sperm normally didn't come in contact with me. I had a quick rinse after the act an it was a one time occurence.

Initially I was worried about pregnancy risk (which I realized from the beginning), although I already had two periods, but the second was unusually scarce. Then it hit me that I could have caught an STI from him. He had 5 partners before me and I can't be sure if he was healthy. Omitting some minor occasional itchiness, I do feel well and everything seemed fine, but I know some STDs are asymptomatic and this risk has never crossed my mind before as I only had 1 healthy partner and didn't plan on being sexually active. It doesn't help that where I live sex (especially premarital) is a taboo and shame topic and I am quite the hypochondriac type.

I'd like to know exactly what STD risks did I expose myself to? Can all of these be asymptomatic? What symptoms should I watch out for? When and by which medium (blood/urine/ etc.) can each be tested? Can all be tested at once? What else should I know on this subject?

Sorry for such an extensive question and thanks a lot!!!

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Hello CherryChocolate

Thank you for writing.

Unprotected genital touching is not safe. Many infections like HPV (that causes genital warts and cervical cancer) and herpes are transferable via skin-to-skin contact, not genital fluids.
There is no way to test a man for HPV and a man who has had 5 other partners will likely have come into contact with HPV at some stage so there may be some risk for you.
Annual pap tests will know whether you are healthy and you can also ask for a HPV test to be done.

Herpes manifests itself with open sores on the genitals, lesions etc . Regular STI testing can let you know where you stand. Other symptoms of STIs include genital itching, redness, a bad smell or discharge.

Many people have no symptoms - others will. It varies from one person to another. You could have an infection for years without symptoms and suddenly get them. Or never have a sign and yet pass the infection to someone else. Testing can vary from blood tests to analysis of vagina/cervical fluids.

My advice is to never do this again without a condom and only with a monogamous partner. Get an STI test done when you next see your gynecologist.

I will not be able to write out a personal write-up for you regarding all the different STD/STIs but that's because we have great resources on our site - you can read all about this topic here and click on the various areas of interest to you - copy and paste here: http://www.marketwired.com/press-release/EmpowHER-Offers-FREE-Resources-for-Women-About-Sexually-Transmitted-Diseases-1166004.htm


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