Erection failed on wearing condomn?

By Anonymoushelp July 24, 2015 - 2:05pm

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Hello,
Me and my BF went for our first Date. He found some problem with his erection as soon as I wrapped down the condomn on his thing. He tried a lot but he failed. But he can act positive without the condomn. Tell me the reason for this and was there any mistake on my side as I have a lot of shyness and didn't do much acts of stimulating him. Or there is any problem with him such as he needs any treatment or with the condomn? We use Ribbed latex condomns.
Thank you

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S. Gillette-Palmer Guide

I'm glad my response helped in some way.

As for your shyness and whether or not it made your boyfriend feel bad, that's for him to answer. If he didn't say that it did, you're probably safe that it didn't, but you can always ask.

I think if both of you are sensitive and patient with each other and communicate honestly you'll work thru everything.

Here's more information: Sex and Shyness

July 24, 2015 - 6:15pm

S Gillette Palmer Guide

Hi Anon,

Thank you for sharing your question with the EmpowHER community.

First and foremost, you did nothing wrong. Research shows that some guys feel it's more difficult to stay hard when using condoms. It could be because of physical things happening while placing the condom on, the decline in stimulation due to the interruption, or it can be mental. There could be a concern about losing their erection when putting on the condom or it not feeling right that ultimately ends up making that happen.

Here's some additional information and tips: Erections and Condoms

Again, it's not your fault and really not your problem to solve. But if you're boyfriend discusses it with you and is open to help, you can share the above link with him.

I hope this helps,

Be well,

~Gillette

July 24, 2015 - 2:21pm

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Anonymoushelp (reply to S Gillette Palmer)

Hello Gillette,
Thank you for your reply, it helps me a lot. And I have some other problems in this aspects. I have more shyness during our sex. Because of that I usually didn't do much acts of arousing him. But my BF makes me comfortable and really enjoyed. I have much fear about losing virginity after red out the articles about bleeding and pain during losing virginity. Did my acts made him feeling bad? How can I get rid of these.? Please help.
Thank you.

July 24, 2015 - 2:37pm