My husband has asperger's, and now we are realizing our daughter also has AS. Most of the stress in our home comes from the 2 of them in constant conflict. I've found information on NT children with AS parents, and NT parents with AS children. What I need is information that can help my asperger husband in how to be a better parent of his asperger daughter.
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we are not in family counseling but do have our daughter in "social" counseling program that is providing very good feedback for us as parents as well. I guess what I would really love to find is a book my ASH could sit down & read, because he learns very well through books. I'll keep searching. Thank you for your ideas.March 8, 2011 - 4:26pm
This article may also help, as some of the content may be generalized to your situation (communication tips in general): Communication between aspergers adults and their spouses, as well as Aspergers parents and neurotypical children.March 6, 2011 - 8:44pm
thank you for these resources. I have found many of these article helpful for me. Unfortunately, my AS husband doesn't really relate so much to the AS parents w/NT children one, because our daughter is AS also. That is where the conflict is...neither can look at things from the other's perspective, and I'm always the peacemaker around here.March 7, 2011 - 2:36pm
Have you all tried family counseling, with a psychologist who specializes in AS? Counseling can be very helpful for families who can use some guidance in communication, so that your husband and daughter can form their own relationship and communication style with each other...and with you out from the middle acting as a buffer or peacemaker. (That sounds exhausting!). Family counseling could even be some fun togetherness time, for everyone to feel "heard" and "understood", while learning some great communication techniques.
Let us know if you need help finding any resources.March 8, 2011 - 10:39am
Is your husband interested in attending any type of parenting group or counseling sessions? If so, can you tell us your location (zip code is fine) and we can help you search for some options.March 6, 2011 - 8:08pm
thank you, Alison, for your responses. At this point my husband is hesitant to attend that sort of thing, but might be interested in the future. He is definitely willing to look @his behavior, though, which is HUGE step for our family. We are in the San Diego County area.March 7, 2011 - 2:34pm