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Sex with an Uncircumcised Man

 
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I’ll be honest; I had to do a lot of research before sitting down to write this article. I have only come into contact with one uncircumcised penis during my short stint as a single adult woman, and it didn’t really seem to be that big of a deal at the time.

However, when it comes to uncircumcised (commonly spelled "uncercumsized") penises, there’s more than meets the eye . Approximately 50% of men are “uncut,” which is really how the penis is meant to be in the first place (not many men outside the United States are circumcised). Circumcision originated among ancient religious populations as a way to purify man by removing the source of his sexual pleasure. This tradition has held its ground into the 21st century, which can lead to quite a bit of confusion when a woman unexpectedly comes into contact with a penis au naturale.

It may surprise you to learn that the foreskin itself, before it is separated from its owner, is extremely sensitive to pleasure. During circumcision two very important things are removed that will never grow back: the frenulum, the band near the tip of the penis that connects the foreskin with the glans, and then of course, the foreskin and all the nerve endings that go along with it.

Not only are these sources of pleasure eliminated during circumcision, but the shaft of the penis is left unprotected and slowly loses its responsiveness through a process called keratinization. In an article published in Fathering Magazine, Rio Cruz explains that “the male glans and inner foreskin, just like the clitoris and inner labia of women, are actually internal structures covered by mucous membrane that, when exposed to the air and harsh environment through circumcision, develop a tough, dry covering to protect the delicate, sensitive tissue.”

The main difference in having sex with an uncircumcised penis is that the foreskin acts as a glider of sorts, and it stays in place while the glans and shaft continue to thrust. This leads to less friction in the vagina and thus a more pleasurable experience for the female. For circumcised men who are experiencing gradual loss of sensation throughout the course of their lifetime, there actually is a process of foreskin restoration that involves the use of tape and weights (?).

So when all is said and done, you (and your partner) are actually likely to have much better sex with a penis that is uncircumcised. If you’re performing oral sex and looking for tips, just focus your efforts on the ridge just below the glans and use your hand to help the foreskin go with the flow. That's all there is to it!

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Anonymous

Hi Shaina,
Excellent article. I am a Jewish woman who has been writing and speaking against the ills of circumcision for nearly 20 years. There is so much doctors do not tell parents. And, you supplied some of the very important missing information. Additionally, it's important to know that the foreskin contains over 20,000 highly sensitive touch receptors, far more than any other area of the penis. The keratinization of the exposed glans, as you mentioned, further de-sensitizes the surface increasing as a man approaches middle age--just when women may be experiencing less lubrication due to the onset of menopause. Typically, it is the woman's menopausal condition that is blamed for the abrasive sexual contact, rather than factoring in the consequences of altering the male genitalia.

There are other critical considerations. Traumatizing infants is very serious. For those who are capable of watching the excruciating suffering of an infant being circumcised (even with the application of topical pain killers), and pretending that the baby's agony is no different from a protest for a diaper change, should read the abundant scientific literature which has measured heart rates, respiratory rates, cortisol levels, etc. on babies having their foreskins ripped from the glans, crushed and cut. We now have a neurological basis to understand the likelihood that such massive trauma to a neonate may very well alter neurological structures.

Those who are Jewish and feeling compelled to repeat this ancient wrong, should know that maternal lineage trumps circumcision: if the mother is Jewish, the baby is Jewish.

I am happy to talk to anyone who is struggling with this issue, and share the path that I have walked. Circumcision goes against every Jewish precept of how we define what is holy and how we are to treat each other. I would urge people to become informed. Check out www.nocirc.org, www.doctorsopposingcircumcision.org, or www.cirp.org.

February 26, 2011 - 5:33pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I've never understood why there's apparently so many cases of dry vagina's - now it's all starting to make sense! typical of men to blame women. I've never experienced dryness and actually, always been naturally very wet, nor for that matter, to my knowledge, have I slept with a circumcised man.

December 15, 2012 - 2:42pm
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Anonymous

To be honest, I don't read articles written in a light grey colour on a white background. It's far too difficult to see. Why don't people use BLACK text on white, or LIGHT GREEN on BLACK (preferable)?

February 24, 2011 - 2:01am
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Anonymous

Excellent article, but please don't use the perjorative term "uncircumcised." Men whose genitals have escaped the scalpel should be called "intact." We wouldn't call an African woman who escaped the knife "unclitoridectomized."

February 23, 2011 - 8:39pm
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Anonymous

I am an American woman who can attest to the horrible nature of circumcision. My own brother had complications with the circumcision he had at birth, and had to have it fixed (painfully, I might add) as he was nearing puberty. Too many babies go through that for absolutely no reason. Why remove a natural, functioning organ? There is no other surgery that is justified by the same means and still legal (look up female genital mutilation, which is illegal, and look at the similar reasoning used for it and for male circumcision). News flash doctors: IT'S THE SAME THING. But I digress.

As far as my own sex life, when I became sexually active and touched a penis for the first time, I was actually shocked that there was no gliding movement. I knew nothing about circumcision at the time, and had never seen any type of penis intact or circumcised (my family is fairly conservative when it comes to sex, and I was always extremely shy about it). However, I naturally assumed there would be some type of movement of the skin on the shaft. What does that tell you? A woman who had utterly no prior knowledge of male anatomy whatsoever instinctively expected there to be movement. Since then, I have been with an intact man also, and I tell you in all honesty, intact penises are much easier. They are more sensitive, much easier to please, and more fun to play with. Sorry if that's too much info, but I'm sick of the misinformation surrounding a natural penis. Also, the story that an intact penis is dirtier than a circumcised one is complete bullshit (pardon my French). As a matter of fact, the intact penis I experienced was actually cleaner than any of the circumcised ones.

Men are supposed to have a foreskin, and any doctor who says otherwise is misinformed. In the U.S. doctors promote all kinds of propaganda to perpetuate the removal of foreskins on any man or child that has one. Moral of my story for all the ladies out there: Don't be afraid to try an intact guy. I promise you'll like it just as much if not more than a circumcised penis. Also, if you're going to have children at any point, reconsider having an integral part of their body chopped off at birth. He'll thank you later.

To all you doctors out there spreading your bullcrap on the web, answer me this: Of every animal on the face of the planet, human or otherwise, why are male human beings the ONLY creatures who have to have a part of their body amputated at birth? Hmmm?

February 23, 2011 - 8:19am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Male humans aren't the only creatures to have healthy body parts amputated at birth though. Many people also choose to chop off the tails of certain breeds of puppies, for example. But yeah, humans are the only creatures which routinely mutilate healthy infants for no real reason.

November 11, 2012 - 8:21am
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Anonymous

Wow the world is going to be such a better place now that you have explained to everyone how to give a proper blow job to a guy with foreskin. Get some morals and write about something meaningful you pig.

February 23, 2011 - 8:12am

@Anonymous: "I'm a 55 year old cut man and the head of my penis is so sensitive that if it were any more sensitive I would loose my load upon entry."
We often hear cut men say that (http://www.circumstitions.com/Sexuality.html#more ) - yet intact men aren't all "losing their load upon entry" - funny, that. This strongly suggests that circumcision affects sensitivity, but not in a good way. in fact circumcision forces men to rely on the sensitivity of a greatly reduced area of their penis (the frenulum, if they're lucky enough to have been left it), making it more hair-trigger. Whether this is an advantage or not can only be decided by the adult man - but when it's a detriment, it's too late.

February 23, 2011 - 12:31am
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Anonymous (reply to Hugh7)

From Dr. Buffman (Buffydaddy) EmpowHER Expert

Anonymous, I am a urologist and an expert in the field of sexual medicine. I see approximately 5,000 men each year with erectile, ejaculatory dysfunction and hormonal dysfunction or a combination of each. It is my objective opinion, after conducting face to face interviews with so many of these men, that circumcision undoubtedly does not affect sensitivity or pleasure after the healing phase of a few months. Interestingly so many careless men, without seeking expert advice, are driven to clinics that advocate circumcision and hormonal treatments to achieve the end-result of abating and or "curing" premature ejaculation.

This practice is not only archaic but borders on malpractice.

February 23, 2011 - 5:15am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Dr Buffman, the claim that circumcision does not affect sensitivity borders on idiocy.

Cutting healthy flesh off healthy bodies is the province of cosmetic surgeons, not healers.

February 25, 2011 - 9:24am
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