The end of any relationship is painful, and overcoming that pain can be hard. You feel as though your world has been turned upside down, as though your life is empty, as if you’ve lost everything. Coping with lost love can be a traumatic experience, and here are some tips to ease the pain.
You might not believe it, but crying is a great way to get through post-breakup sadness. Crying can help you to overcome your pain and release your emotions. It is also an outlet through which you can express your inner turmoil.
2. Talk about it.
It might seem easier to close yourself off, but talking about your emotions openly and sharing your pain with loved ones who care about you can be very beneficial. In addition, talking about your emotions openly will allow you to truly address them and recognize what steps you should take to feel better. Plus, having another perspective on the issue might help to gain a realistic point of view on the situation.
3. Grieve the relationship.
With any relationship, it can feel like a death. Your life with another person has ended, and you should allow yourself to grieve over the loss. Finding a point of acceptance is difficult and can result in feelings of rejection, abandonment, disappointment, or fear. Let yourself feel and grieve, for this is part of the healing process.
4. Try to communicate with your ex-partner.
Sometimes, all you need is closure, and somehow communicating with your ex-partner might help in the process of reaching closure. It might help to illuminate some parts of the relationship that you’ve idealized in your mind.
5. Throw out old gifts and memories.
As tempting as it is to keep an old photograph as a nice memory of the relationship, remember that living in the past is no way to live. Giving up those gifts can be a symbolic way to give up those emotions and that time in your life.
6. Build something new.
In this vulnerable time of your life, taking on a new activity like finding a new hobby or getting a new puppy can be especially beneficial. In this way, you can begin to shape your life without your ex-partner in the picture, helping you to find a sense of self while also putting yourself around new people and making it easier to forget the past.
7. Take care of yourself.
Most importantly, take care of yourself. In this moment, no one’s needs (not even your ex-partner’s) are as important as yours are. Be gentle with yourself, and don’t beat yourself up for any past mistakes you made. Blaming yourself in any way for the relationship’s end is unhealthy and unwarranted. Put yourself first.
Huffingtonpost.com. “7 tips to dealing with a breakup.” 13 June 2013. Web.