By BaranFrances April 8, 2023 - 6:01am

Drew aged 8 at the time he was flicking through the channels of his television at home, and came across "Girls Gone Wild." Then, a few years later the show was on HBO's late night pornography that was soft and sexy. In ninth grade, Drew discovered online porn websites through his mobile. They were great to get off of the sex, he explained as well as sources of concepts for future spots with potential girlfriends. Through porn, he realized that men must appear sexy and confident while in bed. This includes things such as flipping females to their stomachs during sex. Females groan frequently and they are enticed by almost anything a confident person performs. One specific porn video stayed for him: A girl found herself bored by a guy who sex was approached with a gentle manner, but began to erupt with a more daring man.

However, around the time of 10th grade the issue began to bother Drew who was an honor roll student who is passionate about playing baseball and writing lyrics for rap and who still tells his mother the influence of porn on how he considered girls at school porn categories. Did their breasts look similar to those in porn? Do girls stare at him like the porn girls do during sexual relations? Do they offer him blow jobs , and would they what else that he witnessed?

Drew I asked him to choose an alias for him was in junior high when I first got to know him at the end of 2016, and he shared with me a few details of this particular Thursday afternoon as we were seated in a tiny meeting room along with a few others high school students munching on chips and sipping soda, waiting for the after-school program to commence. In the room next the Drew there was Q. Q., who wanted me to name him with the initials in his name. He was fifteen well-educated and an avid baseball fan too as a little confused by the way that porn influenced his everyday life. Q. Hadn't been a sex-free teenager He was a fan of more mature, distant girls and the last time he was with one was during sixth grade. They played around for a while. Therefore, he was not placed in the best place to directly ask girls what they were interested in. However, as he explained to me during several chats it wasn't just porn images but rather rough pictures on Snapchat, Facebook and other social networks that frightened him. For instance, the GIF that he observed of an individual who was pushing his girlfriend against the wall, with the girl saying: "I want a guy like this." Also, that one Drew spoke of in"the "pain room" in "Fifty Shades of Grey" and the caption of a girl: "This is awesome!"

The porn shows also increased Q.'s anxious about his performance. "You are looking at an adult," Q. said to me. "The guys are built and dominant and have a big penis, and they last a long time." If you're not doing as they do in porn Drew explained, "you fear she's not going to like you."

As he sat back in his chair Drew admitted that some women behaved like they were looking for a male rather than a wise and sensitive man. However, was this really true? Did it seem like a ploy? What did girls believe they should want? The girls were not sure. Q. or Drew did know. About two seats to the side one of the students who was quiet for a while was asked if they didn't even know. "I think social media makes girls think they want something," the student declared, adding that he'd never had the pleasure of watching porn more than one or two times, and was not a fan. "But I think some of the girls are afraid."

"It gets in your head," Q. told Q. "If this girl wants it, then maybe the majority of girls want it." He'd been told about the significance of consent in sexual relationships, but it seemed vague, and did not seem like that would ever be true when he was in the heat time. He was suppose to ask: Could you pull my hair? Maybe he should test something to check out how women responds? He could tell that there were certain items such as "big things, like sex toys or anal" --He would never attempt without consulting.

"I would just do it," one of the boys dressed in pants and sweatshirt. When I asked him what the meaning was, he told me sexual sex anal. It was assumed that girls enjoy it because of the porn girls are porn.