My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year and we started out with a strong sexual relationship. But out of no where he changed. We have been on a dry spell for 4 months now. And I have tried. Wearing something sexy. Little nightgowns and laying on our bed in my underwear and a big tshirt. But nothing. I have even tried touching him and he just pushes me away and says no.
It sucks being pushed away by someone who says they love you. It makes me feel extremely self conscious about how I look and it's depressing. There is only so much a girl can take. I'm 20 and he is 27. Is the age difference what's causing our problems? Any advice would be appreciated.
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It could be that he is asexual. A lot of asexual people will perform in the beginning of a relationship but stop once they are comfortable in the relationship. It's not that there's no attraction. More like the connection in the brain is missing. Also, if your boyfriend is Autistic or something he may need you to be very blunt verbally - he could be missing the social cues you're putting out there. Just possibilities to think about.
June 4, 2015 - 9:52amThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
Welcome to EmpowHER and thank you for sharing your story with us. You are not alone. Many women post a similar story .
Have you spoken to your boyfriend about this and how it is making you feel? Obviously something has changed and caused a change in his response to you.
Begin with a calm conversation. Be honest with each other. Try to keep your emotions in check. Refrain from anger and blame.
Regards,
March 26, 2015 - 6:14amMaryann
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