Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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Hello Anonymous,
Most condoms last about five years after their expiration date, although it depends on the brand. The older they get past the expiration date, the less successful they are at preventing pregnancy or STDs.
From what you shared, I do not see any risk for getting a STD.
Regards,
October 6, 2016 - 8:59amMaryann
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The brand was Trojan,
Thank you
October 6, 2016 - 9:33amThis Comment
Hello,
October 3, 2016 - 5:34amI was dry humping a guy and I'm almost 100% he had his underwear and jeans on but it was dark and I was drunk so i'm not completely sure. And i was wearing jersey shorts without underwear. We dry humped and now my period is 10 days late.. I'm almost sure it wasn't possible but what if my shorts moved a little and somehow idk he had cum on his pants and it touched my vagina? Is it possible to get pregnant this way? My cycle is usually 34 days or 33 or 28 and i had it 41 twice in my life. I only got my period two years ago and it's still pretty unregular but it's been 45 days this time. I also got dizzee once in a morning and i have tender breasts and white or transparent discharge. Is it in my head or am i prengnant?? I'm so scared, please help
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Hello Anonymous,
The best thing to do is take a home pregnancy test. For the most accurate result, please buy a name brand test, test in the morning and use the urine when you wake up and use the bathroom.
Stressing out about this could be the reason for a delayed period. But, take the guesswork out to this picture and test.
Regards,
October 3, 2016 - 9:37amMaryann
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Hello,
About three weeks ago my boyfriend and I had outercourse, neither of us were wearing underwear and he came on my thigh. I accidentally crossed my legs and some of his sperm might have gotten near my vagina. Is there a slight chance I could become pregnant?
September 21, 2016 - 11:36pmThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
Possibly. If this happened when you were about to ( 5 days before) or on the day you ovulated, and some semen got onto your pubic area, it is possible that sperm entered your vagina.
If you are not ready to become pregnant, practice safe sex.
If you are going to dry hump or engage in outercourse, wear clothes.
Regards,
September 22, 2016 - 8:55amMaryann
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Hello, i was dry humping my boyfriend the other day while i was on my period (wearing a pad) i was on top of him and we were both fully clothed i had some leggings and he was wearing some gym shorts, we were grinding on eachother untill he finished, as soon as he did i got right back on my feet and noticed my inner thighs were dampish and i didnt know if he cummed or precummed, then i went striaght home and took off my clothes and into the shower, is there a chance i got pregeant?? im just so stressed.
September 17, 2016 - 10:49pmThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
You can relax. There was no chance of becoming pregnant because you were having your period and where both fully clothed.
Regards,
September 19, 2016 - 9:41amMaryann
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Hi,
Me and my gf had outercours last night without any cloths and I did vibrate my dick head over hear vegina from outside only she didn't took it in .... and after 4 hours she told me that she has start get bleeding and feeling pain in her stomach....
But now she is not feeling any pain in her stomach but getting very little amount of blood , it's been 2 days.
As I remember there might be a small possiblilty of my sperm getING on her top of vegina .... I am very worried about her condition... and we had very dry humping so I thought because of friction she start getting blold , should we concern to a doc ? Or its totally fine and we did not make intercourse becasue I didn't put my dick into her vegina....
I seriously need suggestion,
September 9, 2016 - 2:55pmThanks
In advance.
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Hello Anonymous,
If you did not insert your penis into her vagina, which is inside her body, I do not see how any friction would cause her to bleed. I do not see how rubbing your penis outside of her body would cause pain in her stomach.
If she is now feeling fine, there is no real need to see a doctor.
About your concern of sperm getting on her vulva or the outside of her pubic area, did you ejaculate or come?
Regards,
September 12, 2016 - 9:09amMaryann
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