Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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Something i want to know. I did dry humping with my significant other and she was wearing panty and I wasn't. Later that day she says that she had some pain on right side near vagina and she barely can walk without the pain and once or teice kind of itching on it too. May I know why is that happening? Also there were 2 bloodspots though her periods were over3 days ago. Does it have any connection to it?
December 24, 2016 - 12:08pmThis Comment
Hello,
December 23, 2016 - 10:17pm2 nights ago my girlfriend and I were dry humping, I was wearing boxer briefs and she was wearing short, loosely fitting shorts and tight lacy underwear. She was on top of me, and when I came, it soaked through my briefs and she felt some semen on her bare thigh, roughly 2 inches from her vagina. Her period was on the 9th to 12th this month and the night was the 21st. She is unsure, but thinks her period happens every 3 weeks. Is there any chance at all she could be pregnant?
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Last night my boyfriend and i were just in our underwear. Our genitals were rubbing, but im actually terrified. Can i get pregnant from this
December 23, 2016 - 2:11amThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
No way because you were both wearing underwear.
Maryann
December 23, 2016 - 10:02amThis Comment
Hello Doc,
December 15, 2016 - 4:04amMy Boyfriend and I were dry humping. We both were in our undergarments only. After making out for a while we were into dry humping. He ejaculated in his underwear while rubbing his penis against my vagina. This whole act took place while both of us only had our underwear on. I am sure that I won't be pregnant but my period is delayed by 2-3days and he is freaking out. Could you please help? Thanks a lot.
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Hi, i dry humped with muy bf, he was naked while I was wearing my panties. This was six/five days before my supposed day of ovulation. He didn't ejaculate on me at all but I noticed precum stains all over my underwear and the reason we stoped is because i felt him moving my underwear and actually touching it bare. I was really wet because he had given me oral before. When my supposed day of ovulation had come I didn't notice any of the usual signs nor any cervical mucus. I'm supposed to start my period in a week and I'm actually worried cause I didn't notice I ovulated at all and my mom has been acting so moody and strange lately. Could there be a chance I got pregnant like this??
December 12, 2016 - 11:30pmThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
Not a big chance because you were wearing your panties. Wait for your period to start. If you are late by more than one week, then test for pregnancy. That is the only way to know- no period and positive test result.
Regards,
December 13, 2016 - 10:41amMaryann
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Even if it was just pre ejaculateoncmy panties ?? He peed before.
December 13, 2016 - 10:52amThis Comment
Hi Anonymous,
No risk for two reasons. One, the pre ejaculate fluid was on the outside of your panties. Second, pre ejaculate fluid itself does not contain sperm. Any sperm left in his urethra from a recent ejaculation was flushed out when he urinated.
Regards,
December 14, 2016 - 9:09amMaryann
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I was with my bf a a couple of weeks ago and we fooled around. we both had our clothes on. he was wearing his underwear and pants I was wearing my underwear and jeans. We were dry humping and our genitals were pressed hard against each other but with the clothes in between. I became wet and orgasmed while he just had some pre-cum. We both felt the wetness in our underwear but we can't tell for sure if our pants were wet.
My period is late, feeling nauseous and having pregnancy symptoms. I am FREAKIN OUT!! Can I be pregnant??!!
December 8, 2016 - 10:09pmThis Comment