Questions abound regarding dry humping, dry sex and dry intercourse. It is most often a question asked by girls and women, wanting to know if they can be pregnant when engaging in "dry sex".
The terms has been defined in many ways, depending on the person asking, and I wanted to break through the barriers and actually talk about the "embarrassing" aspects of what these terms actually mean.
What are you actually doing with your partner when you are doing anything "dry" in the sex-realm? Let's take the slang out of our questions, and talk about these taboo topics in the name of sexual health and wellness.
Sexual Health Quiz: Test Your Knowledge on this "Dry" Subject!
1. How would you describe/define the following terms?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
2. What specific behaviors am I engaging in if I do any of the following?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
3. Can you "get" pregnant from any of the following sexual activities?
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
4. Can you spread or contract an STI/STD from any of the following sexual behaviors? (STI/STD = sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- Dry Humping
- Dry Sex
- Dry Intercourse
ANSWERS:
1. Dry= No Bodily Fluid Contact
The word "dry" means that there is no bodily fluid exchange or contact, including fluids or lubrication from the penis, vagina, anus or mouth. These specifically can include pre-ejaculatory fluid ("pre-cum"), ejaculatory fluid or "ejaculation" or "cum", vaginal lubrication or vaginal secretions.
"Dry humping" and "dry sex" can be summed up by using the term: "outercourse".
There is actually no such thing as "dry intercourse", as penetration can never be considered a "dry" activity as there is natural lubrication from your body that is considered a "bodily fluid".
2. Outercourse can include:
- massaging, touching
- masturbation
- body rubbing, humping or "going through motions" of sex while fully clothed (genitals are fully covered)...most commonly called "dry humping"
Outercourse can not include:
- penetration of penis into vagina, anus or mouth
- body rubbing while clothed, but some "slippage" of clothing (underwear, specifically)
- ejaculation near vagina, even while covered, with chance of semen spilling over clothing
3. No, Outercourse would not lead to pregnancy
As explained above, outercourse does not involve the contact or exchange of any bodily fluids, and therefore, would not create a risk for pregnancy
4. Yes, Outercourse may still carry the risk of spreading or contracting an STI/STD
The word "dry" is important when talking about pregnancy and STIs/STDs, as Outercourse is a Good Safer Sex Option, but is not 100% "safe".
Safer Sex is any sexual behavior that reduces your risk for infection or pregnancy. Although most STDs/STIs are spread through exchange of bodily fluids, some are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact (meaning: you don't have to have intercourse/penetration to become infected with an STD/STI). The skin-to-skin contact through outercourse can be a risk for STD/STI.
Lastly,
What are the Benefits of Outercourse (for two consenting adults?)
- Pleasurable form of sexual expression and intimacy
- Type of "safer sex" without need for contraception (for pregnancy prevention)
- Lower risk for contracting or spreading STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases)
- No risk for pregnancy
- It can be a sexual behavior that is pleasurable, exciting and not stress-inducing (from the point of view of women, wondering if they are pregnant)
Let us know your thoughts on these terms "dry humping" and "outercourse".
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So me en my bf had 'dry sex' i was en leggings and pants and him en boxers he did cum but on me leggings obviously as i was wearing them near me thigh. Can it get through leggings and pants? Pants didnt feel wet at all so i dont think it went through that literally just on these leggings. Within e minute i changed my leggings. Risk of anything?
June 3, 2017 - 12:39pmThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
There was no risk because the sperm in semen cannot pass through your clothes.
Regards,
June 5, 2017 - 9:27amMaryann
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My girlfriend was on top and rough and I ejaculated in my jeans and she was wearing underwear and we kept going for maybe a minute after I ejaculated and my jeans felt damp and a little bit soaked it felt like my fingers were wet when I rubbed that part but they were dry then with enough rubbing a little fluid got on my finger which freaked me out she said she felt a bit on her underwear but was unsure if it was hers or mine. Her period is due in about two days as well, any chance she can be pregnant, I'm really worried, thanks in advance!
May 30, 2017 - 1:35pmThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
If you both were wearing bottoms, there was no risk for pregnancy.
Regards,
May 31, 2017 - 11:58amMaryann
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Hello,
I have a question. I am actually freaking out atm as my boyfriend and i tried something new and i don't know if that is considered of me being devarginalized as what happened is that he put his tip of his genitals in me yet it wasnt fully in and i kinda felt him in me but not fully in n i can't much remember if i was wet or dry inside though as far as i can remember his genitals is not dry nor wet. I am just asking if it can lead to pregnancy or STD? And my PMS cycle is 5-7 days from now.
Btw this just happened today. Please help me thank u.
May 28, 2017 - 1:41pmThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
There is a risk for becoming pregnant when you have unprotected vaginal intercourse five days before you ovulate or on the day you ovulate.
Having unprotected vaginal, oral or anal sex with a partner who has a STD does put you at risk for transmission of the disease.
Regards,
May 29, 2017 - 9:29amMaryann
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My girlfriend and I were dry humping naked. My erected penis was on the walls of her vagina but no penetration happened and no ejaculation happened. Are we safe from pregnancy? I masturbated an hour before but I washed my penis before having dry sex. Please help
May 20, 2017 - 12:09amThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
The vagina is inside of the body, so you did have to penetrate. If you did not penetrate and did not ejaculate, there was no pregnancy risk.
Regards,
May 29, 2017 - 9:32amMaryann
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My boyfriend and I were dry humping yesterday and then he took his underwear off but I still had my underwear on and when he rubbed it on my vagina I could feel something wet but that could just possibly be from me being wet. He said he didn't cum but I guess I just want reassurance I'm not pregnant. My period was supposed to come either yesterday or today but I'm not exactly sure since it is irregular. Is that at all a risk?
May 16, 2017 - 6:17amI have another question also. Is it possible to become pregnant right before your period? If you are pregnant and expecting your period in a few days, do you still get your period? I know that when you are pregnant you miss your period but when it's so close to your period and an egg is already released to start your period. I heard that there is a better time to have sex and have a lower risk of not becoming pregnant. I'm sorry I'm not super educated on this as you can tell I hope you can understand what I'm trying to ask!
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Hello Anonymous,
If you were wearing underwear the entire time, there was no risk for becoming pregnant.
You become pregnant by having unprotected vaginal intercourse five days before you are due to ovulate or on the day you ovulate.
Having a normal monthly period is proof that you are not pregnant.
The best way not to become pregnant is to use protection, a condom for him and birth control for you.
Regards,
May 29, 2017 - 9:37amMaryann
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