I received an email late last night from someone that I have been corresponding with that has cancer. She was friends with another girl I have been talking with Julie.
Julie’s brother lived here in Arizona and was diagnosed with stage four lung cancer like I was early last year. We would email and share stories for support. I never had the chance to speak or meet her brother, but I felt like I knew him through his sister.
Anyway, I found out that he passed away last week. I don’t know the details of what happened. Last time I heard from Julie was in the fall of last year. I know that her brother Tom married his girlfriend and was traveling all over. It seemed like he was doing great. After I heard the news I cried. It is just so sad that he passed away just as he was starting a new life with his wife.
He was 32 years old like me, I believe. It makes everything seem so real. In the past year I have made several friends that have passed. It doesn’t get any easier and I count my blessings for the time that I have.
Tom’s obituary was on Azcentral.com: http://www.legacy.com/obituaries/azcentral/obituary.aspx?n=thomas-michael-mclaughlin&pid=139547026
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Melissa - I'm saddened by the loss that you and everyone who knew your friend Tom is dealing with right now. It's never ever easy to lose someone at such a young age, and for people like you and me who have cancer it's a reminder that our own lives are vulnerable. I feel I know you well enough though to say that you will find a way to remember and celebrate the joy Tom had from his travels and making the most of every minute, just as you will when you get on the plane and head to New Zealand next month. This time is all we have, and fortunately there are far more good moments than sad times. Take good care of yourself, Melissa. We are here for you if you need to talk. Pat
February 24, 2010 - 6:11pmThis Comment
Melissa,
I'm so very sorry about the loss of this friend (he clearly was one, even if you hadn't met) and of others you've made. It's so very sad to lose someone you've grown close to, especially when people are so young. I don't much know what to say other than I'm sorry, and that I am inspired by you and your fight. Thanks so much for sharing all your ups -- and downs.
February 24, 2010 - 10:44amThis Comment