Why Doesn't my boyfriend want to have sex with me anymore?

Ok guys - first im a male. This is happening in my relationship where i just dont want to anymore. I read these posts to see what goes through a womans head in these situations. I feel sorry for all of you. I can only tell you what happens with me, if its similar to your situation then you can have some answers maybe. Ok you will all hate me but im going to be brutally honest. Yes it is probably you. Relationships naturally die down in my opinion, but if it was hot and heavy down to once in a couple of months, thats not a die down thats more like extinct. Now economic/financial pressures and stress and long hours can very well be the cause before I go further. To test go on vacation and see what happens, if nothing then you know its not the stress but something else. Now if he still looks at other woman (which is very normal for guys to do) then his equiptment probably still works fine and its it may be something about you. If he has no interest and doesnt check out a cute girl walking past then its probably him. Ask yourself if you have changed since when you two met. Has your personality changed, are you more short tempered with your man. And the big reason (which is my case) have you put on some weight? My girl has now put on 40 pounds since we first met, to the point were i just cant do it anymore, the little guy just wont wake up. If your only getting it on your birthday and special occasions (and if he more often than not has to be drunk to do it) then it is something about you. He will never admit this to you no matter how many times you ask. If he's like me he probably still loves you very much and wants it himself. Either that or he's cheating on you in which case your relationship is all but over. Now can someone help me and tell me how to convince her to lose a few pounds. I want the girl that I met back, she's the only one I ever wanted. Because I know that soon I will give up and not care myself, in which case we will both end up fat slobs with no sex life or chance of one, and thats just depressing. By reading your posts, you have given so many examples which are exactly what we are facing - exactly, so I am assuming its probably for a similar reason. Anyway I guess what I'm trying to say is that the answer is within you. You know what it is but are maybe afraid to admit it to yourself. That thing your most scared of - well thats your answer. I hope this helps - please dont send hate mail to me.

I personally think if a guy is saying he is too stressed out to have sex, he is either lying or really just doesn't care anymore. Sex IS a stress RELIEVER. Duh! I'm so tired of hearing the same excuse every night, "I'm too tired." It's like being in a reverse role in one of those tv shows, I'm the man always wanting sex while my husband is the tired housewife who never wants it. It's not like I don't offer to do all the work, in fact, I almost always offer to do all the work now-a-days. I've tried everything to get my husband in the mood, and the fact is, nothing has worked for me. We've been together nearly 10 years, married for just over 2 years. The sex was amazing for the first year or two, but after I had our son, it has gone downhill FAST. I assume that due to my female areas being altered he finds me less desirable. I guess that's a typical female response but I'd say it's logical. He wanted me more when we first got together because my body was fresh, new, not worn out and broken... I feel so helpless. I don't want to cheat on him but I can't cope anymore!!!!

To Anon sept 29th,
If you can masturbate, you can have sex with your girlfriend! In a relationship, it's important to keep each other happy and sex is one of those things that makes us all feel good. It's one thing, if she isn't into sex, but if she wants sex then you need to help out. By all means masturbate, but take care of the lady first and then go ahead with your onanism if you are super sexual. It shouldn't be "hard work" as you say. If you are not having sex in a relationship then you really are just friends. Like I said, if both parties are happy to live sex free, then so be it...but if needs are not being met, then there is a problem. Maybe you should talk it out with your girlfriend?

My e-x-husband and I live together. In our marriage he left me many times for another woman. He has as of the last 5 months given her up but now he doesn't want to have sex with me. He says he has no interest in sex anymore. I know that they had sex all the time because both of them told me this. My question is ...Is he grieving for her because I know he loved her deeply and I was his second choice because she did not want to settle down and I did. Should we stay together..I am lonely!

lADIES, LADIES......I am a healthy 29 year old male, i don't do drug's, i drink casually and i am usually fairly happy( maybe a little cynical at times) and due to the amount of stress i am under, my lack of exercise, and or my diet, i have no desire to have sex for week's!
(I masturbate, but that really doesn't take too much energy,lol.)
I find my girl attractive, we get along good, and we have the same goals, and there is chemistry between us, but sometimes i just don't feel like having sex.

I think the problem is that Guy's tend to "carry the world" on their shoulders, we feel like we have to fix everything and that there is always a job to do, and personally speaking, work never ends!!.

Everyday, i feed the animals, clean the house, do online work, handle every important call that we need to make, conduct all of the business, cook every meal,and help her with her computer and carry all the heavy stuff, plus i fix things, i work on her car, i take care of her cat's, i give her advice....And this is aside from my paying job!!!!

i work my ass off for this girl!! and she get's upset if i don't want to do anymore "work"

I will admit that she is a "daddy's girl" to the max!
that guy bails her out of everything and everywhere, if she runs out of gas, she call's him, if she need's money, she call's him, new computer? call dad, new car part's? call dad!!!!!

Is that you as well?

she is accustomed to getting everything she want's, and i feel like she has no real appreciation for what she does get or have.

I was homeless, in foster homes, single parent, bastard child of a stripper and an illegal Mexican, and maybe i was dealt a bad hand, but i grew to appreciate life, and everything i receive and work for.
I work hard, i never give up and i am always forging ahead.....

i guess What i am trying to say is..
My head hurt's and I'm tired... i just want to put my hand under your butt and fall asleep. lol.
It's not always about you.

I don't know all the answers and i never will. hell, I'm still growing up but i hope that in some weird and roundabout way i was able to add a little male perspective to this topic.