I've been in a serious relationship with my man for 2 years now. I don't have the best self esteem due to past relationships but have always tried not to overreact or get too jealous.
I am a very sexually active person and my boyfriend is in between mild and somewhat like me. I obviously know that he doesn't want sex all the time so it wasn't a big deal if he said he just wanted to cuddle or if he wasn't in the mood. Within months of our relationship I was "pleasing him," but unfortunately after he seemed extremely off and I ask him what was wrong. He then told me that he thought of other woman while I was pleasing him. At first I was in shock, how could a relationship so new need something to spice it up? He told me that it was cause he couldn't "get off" because he was nervous that he wouldn't be able to and he thought it would disappoint me. I told him that it wouldn't have, and he should have told me instead of resorting to such things. Ever since that moment I've had a decrease of self esteem when it came to other women and slowly increased over the past to 2 year.
Today, while on his computer to make a resume, I decided to check up on it to see if he made any progress. But I then found that he was snooping on a new co-workers pictures. I think it made me feel way more jealous because she is extremely pretty, big breasted and had a nice ass with a thin waist. He looked at ALL her pictures, top to bottom and some other girls. I know its normal to look at other people on facebook but it was kind of to extreme for some one for just looking. I feel very jealous and scared almost, that this is going on. How do I get him to look at me and want me again instead of other girls? Any advice?
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I couldn't agree more with the first comment from Maryann, she is right - you need to get rid of this man from your life immediately. He has targeted you because he sees you as vulnerable and needy, he wants to use you to make himself feel powerful, when in actual fact this man is insecure about his sexuality and lacks empathy. It could be that your prior relationship started you on the path to low self esteem, but his behaviour will make that much worse if you allow it to happen. If you do end the relationship, I bet this uncaring man will suddenly find you irresistible and try in all ways not to let you go, but be strong and leave him, you deserve so much better.
July 7, 2014 - 6:21amThis Comment
Hello Anonymous,
My advice is end the relationship now. Your boyfriend continues this behavior and I do not think he plans to change. His disinterest in you but active interest in other women is destroying your self-esteem.
You deserve to be loved and respected.
Regards,
July 4, 2014 - 11:47amMaryann
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