I believe How wet I get is NOT NORMAL!!

i agree with the previous post..normal can be a wide range...a lot of men find this a turn on...if any have made negative comments it may just be because they have not experienced this reaction before..many women do have problems with lack of vaginal lubrication...unless your partner comes right out and says..i do not like this, this is weird, i am completely turned off...why worry...listen carefully to what he is saying...it may not be negative..it may be you are simply unaware of how wet some women do get during arousal as the nurse mentioned...on a personal note...my husband loves it..he says it makes him feel like he is doing the right things for me...i do believe you are quite normal...but do talk to your doctor if you are truly worried...but please do not let a man make you feel uncomfortable with what your body does in response to his...and please, don't fake orgasms or not allow yourself to enjoy lovemaking just because you are unsure of how your partner will feel about your response. if they have problems with this or any part of you before, during or after sex, they are not the right person for you to be with. no one, man or woman should ever make their sexual partner feel abnormal or more concerned with those feelings of uncertainty than with the pleasure that should come from being together.

Hi Anon-
It is difficult to say what is not normal when it comes to vaginal lubrication. The truth is most problems result from not enough lubrication, so in that sense you are doing well.

Is this something that bothers you? Sometimes men comment on this as a sort of compliment to themselves, like "She must really be into me for this to be happening." I'm wondering if that is the type of comment you are hearing and thinking it is a complaint.

Natural lubrication is supposed to start with any arousal, so it is normal to be making out and have this occur. The Cleveland Clinic has a nice page explaining the sexual response cycle: http://my.clevelandclinic.org/healthy_living/sexual_health/hic_the_sexual_response_cycle.aspx

If it really bothers you, see a gynecologist to be checked out and discuss what you can do about it. But in all honesty, I think it sounds like you are pretty normal, and just a little unsure because of a couple of comments.

Thank you for writing.