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Anyone using the Mirena IUD have a low sex drive?

By April 24, 2009 - 1:10pm
 
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Low Libido

Mine is almost non existant! :o(

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I am newly married and got an mirena two months ago. I hate it, it constantly is giving me pain. I used to feel my sex drive every day. But hardly do any more. I want to get it removed but need to find a good alternative birth control. I was thinking nuva ring but I heard it can do the same thing:( HELP!

October 29, 2015 - 8:24am
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Did any women in this forum that had this issue with Mirena get their hormone levels checked before they got it removed? If so, then what were the results?

I'm very sorry for the personal question, but did any women that had this issue masturbate and it was just the idea of sex with a physical person (your husband) not seem appealing? I heard one woman say that mentally she thought about it but when it came to the physical part it just wasn't there.

Here's my background:
I'm the guy here, and my marriage is in serious trouble now. I pretty much define a relationship through affection. In my opinion, without affection you are just good friends or roommates.

We were very sexually active before my wife got pregnant with our first. My wife has had the IUD for pretty much our whole marriage. We decided to have a baby right away and she got the IUD right after the birth of our son. Sex and affection has never been in abundance after that, (maybe once a month) but I attributed that to just having a kid. Over the years it got to the point where if I didn't bring up the idea of sex or attempt to get something started then it wasn't happening. I tested it a couple of times and went 3 months before I said something. It was basically like she just didn't think about it at all.

My wife had the IUD replaced at the 5 year mark and things have gotten worse. Our son is 8. We have had some arguments over the years. Not many though, maybe one to two a year. Some stemming from lack of affection and others not. So, now it has been a year since we've had sex. So, I showed her this thread because we are basically on the brink of divorce. She blames her lack of wanting to be affectionate at all on the past arguments and shutting me out, which I'm sure that is part of it. But, I believe there has to be something more because we actually have a good relationship day to day. We would be great friends/roommates, but I don't think I can be in an A-sexual relationship for another 40 years. I believe, she would probably be just fine with it.

So, I showed this thread to my wife hoping this could actually be part of the issue. She got her hormone levels tested and they cam back fine, so now, I don't think she is going to get it removed. It was kind of my last hope. We still do marriage counseling, but I don't think something is going to magically make her want to have be affectionate.

October 29, 2015 - 8:19am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I absolutely agree that the Mirena has All to do with no sexdrive! I've been married 12 years and everything was fine. I had the copper IUD for 6 years and things were great, I had it removed to have another child and after birth I had the Mirena (December 2015), worst decision ever. Not only have I had my period for over 2 weeks, but I also have no desire to be intimate with my husband, and that is NOT me. It started to worry me, so I started doing some research and everything leads to Mirena being the cause. I will have the Mirena removed asap, and will have the copper one in.

Best wishes for you and wife.

January 13, 2016 - 12:06am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I have only had the Mirena implant for six months, but my sex drive is very low/close to nonexistent now, including the urge (or lack thereof) to masturbate. I have always had a strong sex drive, and even though my husband and I were having sex regularly over the years (we've been together for a long time), I would often masturbate sometimes as part of what we were doing together and other times apart from it. I wondered if my physical feelings might be different or perhaps increased if I masturbated, but they are not and whenever I do it now, I feel a lack of interest in completing the action either by myself or with my husband.

Additionally, I feel that I am moodier than before. I have always been somewhat on the moody side, but it does seem worse since this implant. I have not had my hormone levels checked, nor have I yet mentioned any of my concerns to my gynecologist, but I plan to do that.

December 30, 2015 - 2:51pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I hope you don't think this is crazy. Please read The 5 Love Languages. If you show and desire love through physical touch and her language is recieving gifts or acts of service then you aren't speaking each other's love language. I too need physical touch and quality time, but my husband needs acts of service from me to know I love him. Having her see you read it might also show her that you are trying to understand. Encourage her to read it too. When she sees that her love language doesn't make you feel loved then hopefully she will make an effort in your direction.
I must say though, I know what a strong drive is and since I got the IUD my drive is gone.

December 20, 2015 - 4:59am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I'm having a similar situation with my bf. I had my first baby 3 1/2 months ago and I got the Mirena inserted 4 weeks after giving birth. I haven't had a sex drive at all and I'm so concerned with how it's affected my relationship. As for me I can say that the lack of affection is because affection (kissing, hugging, holding each other) usually leads to sex and since there is no desire then it's totally avoided. I'm very frustrated and disappointed that I feel this way and it's a constant argument with my partner, he tries and for the most part is undertanding but it gets frustrating for both of us. I am also breastfeeding which they say can affect your libido so I'm so confused about where my desire went and what has caused it. I have considered getting my hormone levels checked but I feel like my doctor will just try to discourage me from removing the iud if all looks well. I really want to reconnect with my partner and am
Eager for something to change. In my situation I may as equally sexually frustrated.

December 3, 2015 - 11:34pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

If it's the Mirena IUD let me tell you my story. Short and simple I had Mirena after 1st son libido and sex drive was gone had to pretty much force myself to have sex. Thought it was my body. Then we decided to have another baby took it off to have a baby and took me a year to finally conceive. By then we did not want a baby because our relationship was faltered. He eventually cheated on me once I got pregnant. Yet my libido and sex drive were back and even after baby we decided to work it out for the boys with only the pullout method my sex drive and libido was back and we are better sexually than ever. I suggest to find an alternative birth control until you find what works.

December 30, 2015 - 7:57pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I just ran across this because i was researching my problems. I feel like this is exactly like me! Ever since I've had the mirena my sex drive sucks. But when i do want to have sex its like a big deal and id rather not. I'm almost at my breaking point with it. Its not fair to my fiance that i don't ever want to have sex because of this stupid thing. Its been the best as far as me not getting pregnant but..it's the worst when it comes to other things!

November 25, 2015 - 2:53pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Why don't you get a vasectomy? I think they're starting male birth control pills these days. Why aren't you taking any responsibility for this? Then she can get the Mirena out - or switch it for something else that might not cause so much trouble and not have to deal with the possibility of pregnancy. You sound upset just because she won't be affectionate - think of what she's going through in addition to her realizing she's not affectionate and is stuck between a rock and hard place on what to do. Birth control management is a GIANT life suck of being female and the need to be preoccupied about what goes on down there on a daily basis is awful - if you couldn't already tell from some of these posts. Maybe, just maybe, she's already having issues with the IUD, is aware she's having issues, doesn't know what to do because there aren't a whole lot of other options, and then you harping on her for sex is the absolute last thing she wants to deal with?

November 17, 2015 - 12:58am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I do appreciate your comment. I am honestly trying to understand her side. I actually said that she doesn't need to get any birth control replacement and that I would use condoms. She still won't get it out just to see if it's causing low sex drive and no desire for affection. The only reason I wouldn't get a vasectomy is that we might want another kid. Sex is actually just a part of the issue. There's no affection period. hugging kissing etc. We haven't had sex for a year. Should I just be cool with an A-Sexual relationship? I would actually really like to hear your feedback on ways to handle this. I am definitely open to do anything I can on my side. I've just run out of things to do/try.

November 19, 2015 - 7:10pm
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