Have you spoken with your boyfriend, and tell him that you've noticed a change in the frequency of your sexual encounters? (I'm sure you'll come up with a better way to say it!). He may be thinking the same thing, and afraid to bring the subject up.
Also, you said you miss the physical part of your relationship, but that "all he wants to do is cuddle" is an important part of an intimate, physical relationship. I hope you can gently talk with him, saying that you enjoy the cuddle time, and you are interested in having sex more often. What is his ideal physical relationship with you...do you know?
Lastly, I'm sure you know this, but most boys and men wake up with an erection, and it has nothing to do with sexual arousal. Sure, they can become sexually aroused, but many times it is bothersome (truly!) to them, and happens involuntarily upon wakening. Please do not take it personally that he is not "using" his erection; perhaps he is wanting to cuddle more and perform less...great conversation to have with him, so that you can both share your needs, desires and preferences together.
Good luck, and please let us know how the conversation goes!
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Have you spoken with your boyfriend, and tell him that you've noticed a change in the frequency of your sexual encounters? (I'm sure you'll come up with a better way to say it!). He may be thinking the same thing, and afraid to bring the subject up.
Also, you said you miss the physical part of your relationship, but that "all he wants to do is cuddle" is an important part of an intimate, physical relationship. I hope you can gently talk with him, saying that you enjoy the cuddle time, and you are interested in having sex more often. What is his ideal physical relationship with you...do you know?
Lastly, I'm sure you know this, but most boys and men wake up with an erection, and it has nothing to do with sexual arousal. Sure, they can become sexually aroused, but many times it is bothersome (truly!) to them, and happens involuntarily upon wakening. Please do not take it personally that he is not "using" his erection; perhaps he is wanting to cuddle more and perform less...great conversation to have with him, so that you can both share your needs, desires and preferences together.
Good luck, and please let us know how the conversation goes!
January 31, 2010 - 9:47pmThis Comment
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