It really is a disservice that TV, movies and whatever other media we can blame has provided us, regarding how we all view sex. There are so many stereotypes that are harmful (men want sex all the time; women are the gatekeepers to sex; women should not be overly "horny" or they are sluts, if a man does not want to have sex then there is something wrong with him, etc, etc).
Every individual is different. We all have our moods that fluctuate daily, monthly, yearly depending on what is going on in our lives and within ourselves. We may want sex often for awhile, then not want sex for weeks. We may want to be physically intimate in other ways, or need some time to ourselves and not be "available" to anyone else. This is all OK, normal and healthy!
It is also OK for women to express their sexuality in ways that make them feel comfortable, and as long as we aren't "using" sex as proof of a relationship, then sex can be fulfilling, satisfying and pleasurable for both people. If one person (regardless of gender) feels pressured to be physically intimate to "show their love", then the relationship and each person's intent may need to be re-evaluated.
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It really is a disservice that TV, movies and whatever other media we can blame has provided us, regarding how we all view sex. There are so many stereotypes that are harmful (men want sex all the time; women are the gatekeepers to sex; women should not be overly "horny" or they are sluts, if a man does not want to have sex then there is something wrong with him, etc, etc).
Every individual is different. We all have our moods that fluctuate daily, monthly, yearly depending on what is going on in our lives and within ourselves. We may want sex often for awhile, then not want sex for weeks. We may want to be physically intimate in other ways, or need some time to ourselves and not be "available" to anyone else. This is all OK, normal and healthy!
It is also OK for women to express their sexuality in ways that make them feel comfortable, and as long as we aren't "using" sex as proof of a relationship, then sex can be fulfilling, satisfying and pleasurable for both people. If one person (regardless of gender) feels pressured to be physically intimate to "show their love", then the relationship and each person's intent may need to be re-evaluated.
November 12, 2009 - 3:57pmThis Comment
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