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Who could help me and tell me what did my Boyfriend mean when he told me"I am not with you , you are with me." Is that means that he doesn't want me anymore and that was his way of telling me .
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Hi Yuyi- That's a very confusing statement to make, I can see why you'd want some help in understanding it. I'm wondering though - why didn't just ask him what he meant? Would that have been uncomfortable for you? Do you feel a bit intimidated around him?
It's impossible to read another person's mind. You and anyone you ask about this is only going to be able to guess at what he meant, and there are several interpretations. One could be the interpretation you asked about, that he doesn't want you anymore. Another interpretation could be that he feels superior to you, and therefore you can only be attached to him and not the other way around. And there are more, but they would just be guesses.
What is not being said is that he views you as an equal and that he sees the two of you as being in an equal and mutually beneficial relationship. It sounds like you need to have an open and honest discussion with him about your relationship, as well as whether or not it should continue. Playing games and guessing at what someone means is not a healthy relationship or in your best interest. You deserve to know where you stand and to be treated with respect, which means that each of you values and appreciates the other. Other elements of a good relationship include trust, open communications, mutual support and honesty. Are those elements present, or are they missing?
Does this help, and make sense for you? Can you initiate an open discussion with him? Is there anything holding you back from doing so? We look forward to hearing back from you.
Take care, Pat
January 19, 2010 - 5:22pmThis Comment
THANK YOU , I TALK TO HIM AND ASK HIM WHAT HE MEAN HE ANSWER ME THAT HE WAS STRESS OUT , SAY SORRY FOR ANSWERING ME LIKE THAT, AND HE WILL NOT DO IT AGAIN MORE WHEN I TOLD HIM THAT I WAS HAVING A BABY HE GOT HAPPY AND SAY I AM NOT GOING TO HURT YOU AND LET YOU GO I WILL ME THERE FOR YOU. WE ARE GOOD NOW AND TALK ABOUT THINGS. THANK YOU ONCE AGAIN.
January 21, 2010 - 8:27amThis Comment