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Anyone using the Mirena IUD have a low sex drive?

By April 24, 2009 - 1:10pm
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Low Libido

Mine is almost non existant! :o(

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No sex drive after the Mirena. Only way I can get any feeling from Clitoris is via a vibrator. Removed the Mirena after 4 years and sex drive has returned to 50% of what it was. Hopefully more feeling comes back as time passes.

August 27, 2020 - 2:26am
HERWriter Guide (reply to Anonymous)

Hi Anon

Thanks for sharing - a 50% return to normal is good news, even if improvement isn't as fast as you'd like. I hope you get back to your old self soon. 



August 27, 2020 - 5:54am
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Hi all marina casualties... because I really feel like I was a casualty from this I’ve had three coils for varying lengths removed due to thread problems first time,second due to wanting a baby again and then finally this last one which I had for five years :/ it was about the last two years I really got ill from it but anxiety and depression with all 3 coils .Then this last one headaches terrible ones that made me unable to think even to do the shopping was a massive task tiredness foggy head Sinus problems Suicidal thoughts the list goes on .. libido slowly going away until I felt nothing ! I could have been a nun ! I had it removed last week with nurse 2 who finally managed to retrieve it :/ my main question is how are you all now or your partner did removing help ?how long did it take For the problems to resolve ... I’m just hoping it was the coil and I can be a normal functioning woman again and feel human .Thankyou for this thread it gave me much insight that it probably was the coil and the nurse just blarsay said well it says it can in your booklet and so I hope for the future as I was starting to lose hope and felt completely broken

December 15, 2019 - 10:23am
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I have been reading all these comments on here I have had a iud in for 15 years 3 different ones and they want to take it out because im 55 i had it in because of my periods and was scared to get it out but made the call yesterday and waiting to get called back now i think im ready to get it taken out after reading all this and knowing im not alone with different symptoms

October 16, 2018 - 6:23am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Wow, so glad I found this thread. My wife of 7 years started taking the Mirena IUD right after our daughter was born. Even after we were cleared to have sex again, nothing. Her sex drive was gone. We assumed it was only the newborn and sleep deprivation, but now that it’s 2 and a half years later, life is back to normal. Sadly, her sex drive never came back. We went from having quality and romantic sex 5 times a week, to about twice a month. Even that is only because she feels guilty and gives in. I can feel her resentment, and it’s a terrible situation all around. Since the implant, she has gained a lot of weight that won’t come off with diet or exercise, become agitated, and short tempered. It’s all too coincidental and can be tracked back to the IUD. I plan on discussing this further with her and will offer to have a vasectomy in order to get her off BC. Hopefully this will help her health and our marriage.

October 21, 2018 - 8:31pm
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I have had the Mirena IUD in for a little over a year. Sex wasn’t a huge issue at first but it’s become worse. My body doesn’t respond to things it used to and I get extremely annoyed with my boyfriend when he wants to have sex. I get frustrated with myself because things aren’t ‘working right’ and it makes me feel like a disappointment. Also my boobs get really big and sore for a few weeks and then literally deflate for weeks? Weird. Morning sex is the worst because my body just doesn’t respond to anything! I want to get it out but he doesn’t want to as a precautionary. I’ve never had depression but for the first 3 months I struggled with unheard of depression and suicidal thoughts. That luckily went away. I hear all these commercials about drugs causing suicidal thoughts and you think how? But that definitely woke me up on how things can change and be out of your control. I wasn’t offered non hormonal iud and assume it’s even MORE crazy expensive as the Mirena cost me 1,800 thanks to my insurance denying me. Can’t win being a woman.

September 8, 2018 - 1:00pm
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My wife removed Mirena today and I very much hope that at least some of the issues we faced in the 6 yrs (her 2nd) with Mirena were due to this.
The first Mirena came shortly after the birth of our 3rd child. At the time her sister got cancer, we had a 3rd baby, thereafter moved to another house... many potential reasons for her mood-swings, for her screaming at the kids for stuff that actually didn't matter anyway. Her feeling eternally tired and so on. She went to the psychiatrist (2 different ones) had an (in)-complete (no hormone levels check) check-up with the doctor and was prescribe anti-depressants. She was able to stabilize herself (got a tad esoteric in the meantime too) which was good and seemed to confirm that the stress she had was the reason. None of the doctors she saw asked about hormonal BC.
While she was able to stabilize herself the relationship did suffer. She used to have a high sex-drive. We still have sex, but it does not really feel like she'd need it. I miss the hunger she had for me earlier, I miss to feel needed in that department and we were indeed starting talks about opening our relationship due to this (I want her, but I would also like to feel desired)
Accidentally read a comment about Mirena killing someones sex drive online and started to research. What we saw feeded the suspicion that maybe, some of the issues we had in the last six years was not just due to little kids and stuff, but may have been influenced by hormones.
Now we will see how it evolves.
We love each other dearly, but I'm steadily reaching a point where I was no longer ready to live in a relationship that lacked desire. As I said, we still have great sex. Once it happens it was still great, but it only happened on my initiative and then I always had the feeling that it was more of a, how to say, unnecessary act of kindness from her part even though she was still able to climax.
Started to doubt the relationship, her, myself in various aspects (am I crazy by just imagining this all, is my drive unhealthy, does she still want to be with me or is she with me because it's more comfy than the alternative).
Now we will see how much this was influenced by Mirena.

August 24, 2018 - 3:08am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

update to the above: hardly a week later she feels hornier than anytime in the last couple of years. "It's strange, but after only a week, I feel some heat back between my legs".
So, there's hope!

August 30, 2018 - 6:41am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Thank you for your post. My daughter is 5, almost 6 and for years I thought it was other things, stress, busy schedule, hormones associated with birth/breastfeeding, etc. but at this point, I have zero response to intimacy at all!! And now I am thinking its time to look at my kid as the culprit. I hope I have the same response your wife has had. I love my husband dearly and don't want him to live his life in neglect.

September 22, 2018 - 10:38am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

That’s good news. You are lucky and I’m jealous. It didn’t play out for me like this and we still struggle sexually. I guess it’s just a miss for us. Maybe our best days are ahead. One can hope!
Enjoy for the rest of us not connecting.

August 30, 2018 - 8:22am
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