Tina, I absolutely love your story. Wow. How romantic!!!
Indiegirl, I had a completely opposite experience getting married and looking back would definitely have done it differently. When we got married, James and I had dated for four years and decided to do the big, church wedding thing. However, being Korean, James' family had expectations of their own. So, to compromise and make everyone happy, we had TWO big weddings. Both had about 300 people -- the first was in my hometown, Oklahoma City, at the Episcopal church that I'd attended my whole life, with a slew of bridesmaids and groomsmen and a huge reception at the OKC Country Club. The second wedding was a traditional Korean (Buddhist) ceremony held in Weston, Massachusetts (near Boston) with about 300 Koreans in attendance, with elaborate Korean costumes and furniture shipped in from Seoul just for the occasion. I was transformed into a traditional Korean bride with the help of makeup, a black wig, a 24-karat headdress and silk Korean wedding dress.
TALK ABOUT STRESS!!!!!
By the time the two weddings were over, we not only felt married, we were totally burned out and exhausted. My mother-in-law was calling my mom a "dragon lady" in Korean, I was dealing with all kinds of cultural differences that I'd never anticipated prior to the weddings, my husband and I were bombarded with an endless number of crystal bowls and vases that we'd never be able to afford a large enough house for from people we didn't even know, and on top of that everyone expected me to send out over 600 thank you notes in a week's time.
Moral of the story: Your wedding or elopement or date with the justice of the peace is YOURS and yours only. No one else's. Get married the way you and your boyfriend want to do it. Start out your marriage the right way, where it's all about the two of you, and you'll end up with a beautiful story like Tina's that you'll love to share with others.
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Tina, I absolutely love your story. Wow. How romantic!!!
Indiegirl, I had a completely opposite experience getting married and looking back would definitely have done it differently. When we got married, James and I had dated for four years and decided to do the big, church wedding thing. However, being Korean, James' family had expectations of their own. So, to compromise and make everyone happy, we had TWO big weddings. Both had about 300 people -- the first was in my hometown, Oklahoma City, at the Episcopal church that I'd attended my whole life, with a slew of bridesmaids and groomsmen and a huge reception at the OKC Country Club. The second wedding was a traditional Korean (Buddhist) ceremony held in Weston, Massachusetts (near Boston) with about 300 Koreans in attendance, with elaborate Korean costumes and furniture shipped in from Seoul just for the occasion. I was transformed into a traditional Korean bride with the help of makeup, a black wig, a 24-karat headdress and silk Korean wedding dress.
TALK ABOUT STRESS!!!!!
By the time the two weddings were over, we not only felt married, we were totally burned out and exhausted. My mother-in-law was calling my mom a "dragon lady" in Korean, I was dealing with all kinds of cultural differences that I'd never anticipated prior to the weddings, my husband and I were bombarded with an endless number of crystal bowls and vases that we'd never be able to afford a large enough house for from people we didn't even know, and on top of that everyone expected me to send out over 600 thank you notes in a week's time.
Moral of the story: Your wedding or elopement or date with the justice of the peace is YOURS and yours only. No one else's. Get married the way you and your boyfriend want to do it. Start out your marriage the right way, where it's all about the two of you, and you'll end up with a beautiful story like Tina's that you'll love to share with others.
Kristin Park
April 11, 2008 - 10:16amhttp://ppdsurvivor.blogspot.com
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