Thank you for writing and for sharing your perspective on your relationship.
I think you need to bear in mind just how new your relationship is, and how much you are focusing on the physical aspect so quickly - and indeed with a man who has low testosterone levels, stress and other medical issues going on. He is taking Cialis now so he is trying his best. ED is mostly psychological in nature. Give him time.
Give him time to sort himself out. He is acknowledging your needs and doing his part, as best he can for now.
I do hope sex therapy works for you. I'm glad you say you are speaking to him calmly and with love, please continue to do so. I'm sure there is hope but if you continue to speak to him about your sexual needs on a regular basis (knowing already there are issues that he is aware of) you'll stress him out to the point that he may break away.
Not every couple is sexually compatible. Not everyone is a match. Work out together, go the movies, eat out, go on walks. Take the sexual needs talk out of the equation for a while. Your boyfriend is facing mental and physical health challenges. The relationship is very young and a work in progress.
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Hello Anon
Thank you for writing and for sharing your perspective on your relationship.
I think you need to bear in mind just how new your relationship is, and how much you are focusing on the physical aspect so quickly - and indeed with a man who has low testosterone levels, stress and other medical issues going on. He is taking Cialis now so he is trying his best. ED is mostly psychological in nature. Give him time.
Give him time to sort himself out. He is acknowledging your needs and doing his part, as best he can for now.
I do hope sex therapy works for you. I'm glad you say you are speaking to him calmly and with love, please continue to do so. I'm sure there is hope but if you continue to speak to him about your sexual needs on a regular basis (knowing already there are issues that he is aware of) you'll stress him out to the point that he may break away.
Not every couple is sexually compatible. Not everyone is a match. Work out together, go the movies, eat out, go on walks. Take the sexual needs talk out of the equation for a while. Your boyfriend is facing mental and physical health challenges. The relationship is very young and a work in progress.
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February 26, 2020 - 8:01amSusan
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