I know this is a very old post but I don't have anyone else to talk to about this. I am 21 and my boyfriend is 27. We have been dating for around 2 years. When we first started, we had sex multiple times a day, every day. I wasn't a very sexual person before meeting him, but after, he awakened a love of sex in me. Around a year ago our sex started to dwindle to once every 1-2 weeks or so and while it bothered me I accepted it was because of our different schedules and from distance however for the past 4-5 months we have been living together and we haven't had sex once. We went from doing it multiple times a day to never. I don't understand what I'm doing wrong. He used to be such a sexual person and now it seems to disgust him (Altho he didn't have any problem asking our girlfriend (we are in a closed poly relationship) for sex. Every time I try to initiate he makes excuses that's he's tired or something to that extent and last time I tried to initiate he said it was like I was trying to guilt him to have sex with me. That hurt a lot. I try to understand him and not push but I miss the intimacy and closeness we had. I feel like both of us are too young to just be in a sexless relationship and it makes me feel disgusting and unwanted. I just don't know what to do.
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I know this is a very old post but I don't have anyone else to talk to about this. I am 21 and my boyfriend is 27. We have been dating for around 2 years. When we first started, we had sex multiple times a day, every day. I wasn't a very sexual person before meeting him, but after, he awakened a love of sex in me. Around a year ago our sex started to dwindle to once every 1-2 weeks or so and while it bothered me I accepted it was because of our different schedules and from distance however for the past 4-5 months we have been living together and we haven't had sex once. We went from doing it multiple times a day to never. I don't understand what I'm doing wrong. He used to be such a sexual person and now it seems to disgust him (Altho he didn't have any problem asking our girlfriend (we are in a closed poly relationship) for sex. Every time I try to initiate he makes excuses that's he's tired or something to that extent and last time I tried to initiate he said it was like I was trying to guilt him to have sex with me. That hurt a lot. I try to understand him and not push but I miss the intimacy and closeness we had. I feel like both of us are too young to just be in a sexless relationship and it makes me feel disgusting and unwanted. I just don't know what to do.
July 1, 2017 - 8:35pmThis Comment
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