Keep in mind......
MONEY is needed to go to court....attorneys don't work pro bono unless there is a payout at the end. Just like agencies won't help women parent first to be sure, because they will be put out of business.
The reason many place is due to financial resources.
So, trying to comfort those considering adoption that they can go to court is 'half' truth.
What you have to spell out is the details.....that they would need an attorney, because you know that the adoptive parents will have one, and not knowing the system, going without one, well, would be going to a gunfight with a stick.
And then there's the reality, that if the first mother has the best interests of the child, they more often than not, will let the adoptive child and family be, because they do not want to disrupt the child's life or cause stress in the family - and let it go. I personally, know many first moms that are living this exact situation.
They are truly heart-broken, and their children don't even know it.
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Keep in mind......
November 9, 2011 - 9:08amMONEY is needed to go to court....attorneys don't work pro bono unless there is a payout at the end. Just like agencies won't help women parent first to be sure, because they will be put out of business.
The reason many place is due to financial resources.
So, trying to comfort those considering adoption that they can go to court is 'half' truth.
What you have to spell out is the details.....that they would need an attorney, because you know that the adoptive parents will have one, and not knowing the system, going without one, well, would be going to a gunfight with a stick.
And then there's the reality, that if the first mother has the best interests of the child, they more often than not, will let the adoptive child and family be, because they do not want to disrupt the child's life or cause stress in the family - and let it go. I personally, know many first moms that are living this exact situation.
They are truly heart-broken, and their children don't even know it.
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