Sounds like he is just under a lot of stress-- with losing his other job and being now put into an even more stressful position. This is understandable. Have you considered letting him get back in the "groove" of things without pressuring him for sex for now?
It sounds like you need to focus more on yourself for the time being-- you say you're depressed, gaining weight, feeling neglected-- are you sure this is all that's bothering you? If it is, then consider putting yourself in his shoes and maybe you will realize that it isn't you. Go out, start an exercise program, get back to eating healthy and you'll feel at least a hundred times better. If you feel like you can't get out of this "rut" you're in-- consider seeing a therapist if for nothing else than to just have someone to express yourself to.
Like I said, give him some time-- if it doesn't improve at all in the next 4-6 months without you even bringing up the non-sex issue then maybe it's time for a serious talk with him and maybe even couples therapy.
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Hi Anon,
Sounds like he is just under a lot of stress-- with losing his other job and being now put into an even more stressful position. This is understandable. Have you considered letting him get back in the "groove" of things without pressuring him for sex for now?
It sounds like you need to focus more on yourself for the time being-- you say you're depressed, gaining weight, feeling neglected-- are you sure this is all that's bothering you? If it is, then consider putting yourself in his shoes and maybe you will realize that it isn't you. Go out, start an exercise program, get back to eating healthy and you'll feel at least a hundred times better. If you feel like you can't get out of this "rut" you're in-- consider seeing a therapist if for nothing else than to just have someone to express yourself to.
Like I said, give him some time-- if it doesn't improve at all in the next 4-6 months without you even bringing up the non-sex issue then maybe it's time for a serious talk with him and maybe even couples therapy.
Best wishes,
Rosa
August 25, 2011 - 7:16amThis Comment
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