My SO is a COH. His hoarding mother passed away fifteen months ago. He is her only child, and is struggling to clean out her hoard. Thanks to his raising, he was not taught skills such as organization and prioritization. He is churning. I am suffering. So is he, but he also wasn't taught emotional awareness, so he doesn't know that yet.
Bright side #1: I blog about it ravenously, and am meeting members of my MIL's family whom I have never met. We interact on FB, Twitter, and via blog comments. I keep learning more about my late MIL from them, filling in many blanks.
Bright side #2: The extended community of COHs I've met and now interact with daily is also astounding, and we are working very hard with COH to begin several outreach programs. We all met in New Orleans this July, at the invitation of Dr. Suzanne Chabaud. We made twenty-plus life-long friends that weekend.
Bright side #3: My blog readers are also so supportive and share their stories freely, both hoarding-related or not.
Children from hoarded homes really need to know they are not alone, that the mess is not their fault, and that it does just get better.
Thanks for posting about this, Susan. It's important. Great job.