Hi Anonymous,
Thank you for your question and for finding EmpowHER. The doctor will want to examine you to determine if there is a medical reason for your low libido. In the meantime, there are things you can do at home to try to maintain intimacy (with or without sex) with your husband. Pregnancy no doubt messes with your hormones, and also with your emotions. Navigating the waters can be tough, so ask your doctor for a referral to a therapist if needed, or join a support group for new moms. Do you work outside of your home? Do you feel like you have a good support system among family and friends? These things will be crucial especially once the baby comes, but it also is important for day-to-day happiness and to feel self-assured. Bear in mind I'm not a therapist or doctor. I've just been through pregnancy, birth control, and similar situations. It's normal for your libido to drop a little as your relationship changes and evolves, but if it is bothersome for you, you definitely should ask your doctor for help. You may not want to wait until after the pregnancy is over, so you can get it on your doctor's radar, and work on strengthening those bonds with your husband while it's still just the two of you (and of course your belly). :)
Here are some articles and tips for maintaining intimacy and about low libido that may provide some insight: Low Libido Advocacy Sheet, and Mayoclinic.com: Low Sex Drive in Women (Treatments)
Good luck, and let us know how you're doing.
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Hi Anonymous,
May 19, 2011 - 7:41amThank you for your question and for finding EmpowHER. The doctor will want to examine you to determine if there is a medical reason for your low libido. In the meantime, there are things you can do at home to try to maintain intimacy (with or without sex) with your husband. Pregnancy no doubt messes with your hormones, and also with your emotions. Navigating the waters can be tough, so ask your doctor for a referral to a therapist if needed, or join a support group for new moms. Do you work outside of your home? Do you feel like you have a good support system among family and friends? These things will be crucial especially once the baby comes, but it also is important for day-to-day happiness and to feel self-assured. Bear in mind I'm not a therapist or doctor. I've just been through pregnancy, birth control, and similar situations. It's normal for your libido to drop a little as your relationship changes and evolves, but if it is bothersome for you, you definitely should ask your doctor for help. You may not want to wait until after the pregnancy is over, so you can get it on your doctor's radar, and work on strengthening those bonds with your husband while it's still just the two of you (and of course your belly). :)
Here are some articles and tips for maintaining intimacy and about low libido that may provide some insight:
Low Libido Advocacy Sheet, and Mayoclinic.com: Low Sex Drive in Women (Treatments)
Good luck, and let us know how you're doing.
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