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If you could fix him, you would, and if you staying, dropping away and suffering was going to make him better, then he would heal - but the truth is that won't work or make a difference and your job is take care of you. It all starts with us, with us taking back our power and saying 'that's enough' and with us standing up and leaving the room. He needs counseling, help and tools to deal with everything he has to manage - but taking you down in the process doesn't help anyone. Think of it this way - the ONLY way he has a chance to heal is if you stop the cycle and stop the ability for him to keep damaging both of you. So, cultural differences aside, healthy relationships are built upon trust and respect. I think you are brave to look at this and try and figure out next steps - counseling will help you and getting some space will help you gain some strength. You are on a path to moving forward, take that step and know that there are so many of us that have come before you and done the same. You are stronger than you feel, smarter than you are told and more wonderful than you know. Hang tight and get moving, you are young and you know what needs to happen. Be well and be safe:)