I have been in an abusive marriage for more than 26 years. My husband seems to be a nice guy to the outsider, humorous, sensitive, and considerate. But the moment there are only two of us, he would put on a long face ( scowl), ignore my questions and drive me crazy. I can never expect when he will lose temper or snap with hurtful words, in spite of my years of trying to understand him. He expects me to read his mind to know whether he is in the mood of speaking or having normal conversation. He knows very clear that I would not give him cold shoulders when he wants to start a conversation, as I am always responding normally. Yet he refuses to treat me the same. He is verbally aggressive almost everyday. I am very vocal on this and talked to him many times, with tear in my eyes, i pleaded him to change the way he treats me. He will blame me for his behavior or say that that is the way he is and he can not control. I used to believe that he would change as long as he could realize how hurtful his words and facial expression is to me, but now after reading this website, i realize that he has serious personality disorder and will never change. I had better be courageous enough to leave him.
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I have been in an abusive marriage for more than 26 years. My husband seems to be a nice guy to the outsider, humorous, sensitive, and considerate. But the moment there are only two of us, he would put on a long face ( scowl), ignore my questions and drive me crazy. I can never expect when he will lose temper or snap with hurtful words, in spite of my years of trying to understand him. He expects me to read his mind to know whether he is in the mood of speaking or having normal conversation. He knows very clear that I would not give him cold shoulders when he wants to start a conversation, as I am always responding normally. Yet he refuses to treat me the same. He is verbally aggressive almost everyday. I am very vocal on this and talked to him many times, with tear in my eyes, i pleaded him to change the way he treats me. He will blame me for his behavior or say that that is the way he is and he can not control. I used to believe that he would change as long as he could realize how hurtful his words and facial expression is to me, but now after reading this website, i realize that he has serious personality disorder and will never change. I had better be courageous enough to leave him.
May 14, 2015 - 9:31pmThis Comment
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