You are absolutely right. Therapists often believe whatever people tell them. My (now-ex) husband tells his therapist things and has the therapist convinced that it was HE would was abused by me. That is why individual therapy does not help marriages--marriage counseling (which my husband refused to go to) may help, but not individual therapy. His counselor is only concerned about his well-being--he never asks him how I feel or what is best for our marriage. While it may be possible that you are overreacting by calling something abuse, you cannot determine this by listening to HIS therapist. Marriage counseling is the way to go with a therapist who is concerned about the marriage, the "us" not just your husband.
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You are absolutely right. Therapists often believe whatever people tell them. My (now-ex) husband tells his therapist things and has the therapist convinced that it was HE would was abused by me. That is why individual therapy does not help marriages--marriage counseling (which my husband refused to go to) may help, but not individual therapy. His counselor is only concerned about his well-being--he never asks him how I feel or what is best for our marriage. While it may be possible that you are overreacting by calling something abuse, you cannot determine this by listening to HIS therapist. Marriage counseling is the way to go with a therapist who is concerned about the marriage, the "us" not just your husband.
February 28, 2015 - 6:30amThis Comment
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