Why does everyone imagine that it is only the wife that is abused?
A day does not go by when my wife does not yell and scream at me for abusing her? If I so much as disagree with her on what to make for dinner, its abuse. If I meet up with friends, I'm abusing her by ignoring her. If my relatives visit, they're insulting her by talking primarily to me (she wont talk to them, and gets snappy if they try to talk to her; anyway nobody from my side has been to our home in 10 years now). If I cook breakfast without checking with her about the menu, I'm being self centered and don't care about her opinion. If I let her cook, I'm making her do all the work. I'm constantly ignoring and aggravating her because, apparently, I plan to kill her by raising her BP till she has a heart attack or a stroke.
She's sent all "our" savings to her parents. She demands instant gratification in everything, so she spends money in ways that we can't even keep track of, so we never save anything. If I try to talk about it, I'm trying to put her down and insult her, most likely because I plan to kill her by making her have a stroke.
I can't even leave; after a lifetime of hard work I'm broke (I'm thrifty, but in 15 years she's never put a penny into our investments, and after the first few years, spent so much we had nothing from my end to put in either). We have the house, but half of what's left after mortgage isn't much anyway.
Yesterday she screamed at me because I wan't in bed by 11. I had a 3-am deadline. So she stayed put and screamed at me until well past 3am, ensuring I wouldn't meet it. Then she accused me of raising her blood pressure with the express intent of killing her, and threatened to call the cops on me. Then she punched me and told me if I continued to threaten her life she would kill me. *I* was required to apologize in the morning, and more screaming ensued about how I'd humiliated her in the night and tried to kill her.
I've never touched her in anger ever, yet, somehow, I suspect that if I'd called the police when she hit me and threatened to kill me, *I* would have been the one suspected of abuse; she'd have been defending herself.
Are all women like that? She's the only woman I've had in my life.
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Why does everyone imagine that it is only the wife that is abused?
A day does not go by when my wife does not yell and scream at me for abusing her? If I so much as disagree with her on what to make for dinner, its abuse. If I meet up with friends, I'm abusing her by ignoring her. If my relatives visit, they're insulting her by talking primarily to me (she wont talk to them, and gets snappy if they try to talk to her; anyway nobody from my side has been to our home in 10 years now). If I cook breakfast without checking with her about the menu, I'm being self centered and don't care about her opinion. If I let her cook, I'm making her do all the work. I'm constantly ignoring and aggravating her because, apparently, I plan to kill her by raising her BP till she has a heart attack or a stroke.
She's sent all "our" savings to her parents. She demands instant gratification in everything, so she spends money in ways that we can't even keep track of, so we never save anything. If I try to talk about it, I'm trying to put her down and insult her, most likely because I plan to kill her by making her have a stroke.
I can't even leave; after a lifetime of hard work I'm broke (I'm thrifty, but in 15 years she's never put a penny into our investments, and after the first few years, spent so much we had nothing from my end to put in either). We have the house, but half of what's left after mortgage isn't much anyway.
Yesterday she screamed at me because I wan't in bed by 11. I had a 3-am deadline. So she stayed put and screamed at me until well past 3am, ensuring I wouldn't meet it. Then she accused me of raising her blood pressure with the express intent of killing her, and threatened to call the cops on me. Then she punched me and told me if I continued to threaten her life she would kill me. *I* was required to apologize in the morning, and more screaming ensued about how I'd humiliated her in the night and tried to kill her.
I've never touched her in anger ever, yet, somehow, I suspect that if I'd called the police when she hit me and threatened to kill me, *I* would have been the one suspected of abuse; she'd have been defending herself.
Are all women like that? She's the only woman I've had in my life.
November 9, 2014 - 10:02amThis Comment
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