Fear is a powerful deterrent, but, yes, this is something that you need to do. He has broken his marital covenant with you and with God. And while the Bible does speak against divorce, there are certain circumstances in which it's allowable and two of those circumstances are in the instance of infidelity and abuse (God hates violence in marriage, Malachi 2). Obviously, divorce isn't the answer for everyone. I do know of a couple, for example, who were able to repair their marriage after an incident of infidelity, but that's only because they were well-grounded in their faith and rebuilt their marriage in that way. But I know there are a lot of people who still believe it's better to stay in an abusive relationship rather than be divorced.
Your first step should be to contact a family member who would be supportive. If not, there are likely local battered women's shelters in your area. If you're unsure about where those are, you can contact a local social services agency or church and they should be able to connect you. You could also contact your local police department who would also be able to at least point you in the right direction.
Keep us posted on your situation.
I was in your situation and it can be intimidating when you consider the church's teaching and position on divorce. But it's your husband who has broken his covenant, not you. You need to do what's best for your health and that of your children and if the burden of the divorce is weighing on your spirit, you know there is forgiveness and healing.
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Fear is a powerful deterrent, but, yes, this is something that you need to do. He has broken his marital covenant with you and with God. And while the Bible does speak against divorce, there are certain circumstances in which it's allowable and two of those circumstances are in the instance of infidelity and abuse (God hates violence in marriage, Malachi 2). Obviously, divorce isn't the answer for everyone. I do know of a couple, for example, who were able to repair their marriage after an incident of infidelity, but that's only because they were well-grounded in their faith and rebuilt their marriage in that way. But I know there are a lot of people who still believe it's better to stay in an abusive relationship rather than be divorced.
Your first step should be to contact a family member who would be supportive. If not, there are likely local battered women's shelters in your area. If you're unsure about where those are, you can contact a local social services agency or church and they should be able to connect you. You could also contact your local police department who would also be able to at least point you in the right direction.
Keep us posted on your situation.
I was in your situation and it can be intimidating when you consider the church's teaching and position on divorce. But it's your husband who has broken his covenant, not you. You need to do what's best for your health and that of your children and if the burden of the divorce is weighing on your spirit, you know there is forgiveness and healing.
Take care.
October 23, 2014 - 7:35amThis Comment
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