I read this article a few weeks ago.. But wished I would have responded! I am dealing with this as we speak. I prayed everyday for God to change his heart, his words, his actions.. And nothing. But I now understand sometimes the answer is simply no. I got to the point of praying for God to change me.. And well he has. But not in a way that makes my marriage work. My husband and I have been boo boo bandaging or marriage before it even began. Along with emotional abuse, he has severe anger issues. Which doesn't turn physical.. It just makes things emotionally hurt worse. When your kids have to see stuff thrown and break, clothes rip to shreds, yelling, cussing, name calling, put downs it makes things triple worse. It makes u wanna ball up and cry. I don't eat and I half sleep. Biggest thing is that he seems to be seeking God.. But just in his relationship with him and that's it. Which of course is great. But it ain't changing his actions. The mental abuse is still there. Constantly being self centered, inconsiderate of my feelings.. It's always what I don't do right, at all, or enough. Nothing I cook is good enough, nothing I clean is good enough.. The most apparent answer is to leave I know..
But what do u do when you deal with someone with anger issues, threats of taking your children away from you.. It's all a complicated situation.. I have lost love for him. I love him as my children's father.. But that's about it. Sexual feelings, emotional attachment, physical attachment is gone. There was an affair, 3 years ago, trust was lost. I was never given anything to build it back up. Then I know I of one attempt of an affair 1 1/2 ago.. Which I just found out about.. But can't confront him without a blow up. Assumption of another affair around the same time.. Based off His actions towards the girls fiance and me has me still questioning.. A secret pornography addiction I had known nothing about.. He keeps saying God healed him of it.. But kept finding things that said otherwise.. I had to make sure he had a basic phone with absolutely no internet. I have thrown in the towel.. Just don't know where to begin.. I've always let fear stop me from such decisions as these.. But I think this is something I need to do.. I'm scared I'm going against God, because I know what the bible says about divorce.. But what does it say about such abuse??? What is first steps to begin the leaving process when I have kids?? Help
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I read this article a few weeks ago.. But wished I would have responded! I am dealing with this as we speak. I prayed everyday for God to change his heart, his words, his actions.. And nothing. But I now understand sometimes the answer is simply no. I got to the point of praying for God to change me.. And well he has. But not in a way that makes my marriage work. My husband and I have been boo boo bandaging or marriage before it even began. Along with emotional abuse, he has severe anger issues. Which doesn't turn physical.. It just makes things emotionally hurt worse. When your kids have to see stuff thrown and break, clothes rip to shreds, yelling, cussing, name calling, put downs it makes things triple worse. It makes u wanna ball up and cry. I don't eat and I half sleep. Biggest thing is that he seems to be seeking God.. But just in his relationship with him and that's it. Which of course is great. But it ain't changing his actions. The mental abuse is still there. Constantly being self centered, inconsiderate of my feelings.. It's always what I don't do right, at all, or enough. Nothing I cook is good enough, nothing I clean is good enough.. The most apparent answer is to leave I know..
But what do u do when you deal with someone with anger issues, threats of taking your children away from you.. It's all a complicated situation.. I have lost love for him. I love him as my children's father.. But that's about it. Sexual feelings, emotional attachment, physical attachment is gone. There was an affair, 3 years ago, trust was lost. I was never given anything to build it back up. Then I know I of one attempt of an affair 1 1/2 ago.. Which I just found out about.. But can't confront him without a blow up. Assumption of another affair around the same time.. Based off His actions towards the girls fiance and me has me still questioning.. A secret pornography addiction I had known nothing about.. He keeps saying God healed him of it.. But kept finding things that said otherwise.. I had to make sure he had a basic phone with absolutely no internet. I have thrown in the towel.. Just don't know where to begin.. I've always let fear stop me from such decisions as these.. But I think this is something I need to do.. I'm scared I'm going against God, because I know what the bible says about divorce.. But what does it say about such abuse??? What is first steps to begin the leaving process when I have kids?? Help
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