I read all the comments and the article as well. I am married with one daughter and two sons. I regard myself as a great father. I always wish the best for my wife and kids. I worked hard- holding different jobs to provide for the family. I studied even harder to create a better life for us. But I made one mistake that was unintentional- in fact, looking back, I feel completely innocent, but must pay for it.
In my quest to get a better standard of living for us, I unintentionally neglected my wife- hardly went out, always busy doing business, studying etc. Yes I took care of things financially. This went on for sometime- my wife was complaining but I could not see the reason or the logic. We started with each other at the age of 20 and 17 ,respectively. It is 28 years since we're together.
Very recent, I started thinking deeply and realised that I must put things into perspective. After her return on holiday, I told her upon reflection, I think that I made a mess and I'm sorry about all the hurt and pain I unknowing put her through over the years. I could not understand I put her through this... Anyway, I told her that road is closed forever and I'm going to be the best husband ever.
To my surprise, she said she did some reflection during her vacation as well and she has decided to end the marriage. Despite numerous attempt to get her to understand that I was completely unaware of the hurt and sufferings she was going through, she's just shut down. She said it was emotional abuse and not going back to that. She is not willing to at least give me a chance to make that change.
On my part I've always love my wife and kids without a doubt. I also feel its like hanging an innocent man. I feel it's like studying and working hard to get a better life for her and the kids and the reward is a stab in the back. I know I caused her hurt and pain but it was never intentional.
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I read all the comments and the article as well. I am married with one daughter and two sons. I regard myself as a great father. I always wish the best for my wife and kids. I worked hard- holding different jobs to provide for the family. I studied even harder to create a better life for us. But I made one mistake that was unintentional- in fact, looking back, I feel completely innocent, but must pay for it.
In my quest to get a better standard of living for us, I unintentionally neglected my wife- hardly went out, always busy doing business, studying etc. Yes I took care of things financially. This went on for sometime- my wife was complaining but I could not see the reason or the logic. We started with each other at the age of 20 and 17 ,respectively. It is 28 years since we're together.
Very recent, I started thinking deeply and realised that I must put things into perspective. After her return on holiday, I told her upon reflection, I think that I made a mess and I'm sorry about all the hurt and pain I unknowing put her through over the years. I could not understand I put her through this... Anyway, I told her that road is closed forever and I'm going to be the best husband ever.
To my surprise, she said she did some reflection during her vacation as well and she has decided to end the marriage. Despite numerous attempt to get her to understand that I was completely unaware of the hurt and sufferings she was going through, she's just shut down. She said it was emotional abuse and not going back to that. She is not willing to at least give me a chance to make that change.
On my part I've always love my wife and kids without a doubt. I also feel its like hanging an innocent man. I feel it's like studying and working hard to get a better life for her and the kids and the reward is a stab in the back. I know I caused her hurt and pain but it was never intentional.
I would really want to hear your comments.
September 17, 2014 - 12:03pmThis Comment
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