What can I say that none of us don't already know?
My divorce was my choice. Sixteen years married to an alcoholic who didn't work and I couldn't take it any more despite the counseling and excuses. It just sucked the life out of me.
Then, to add insult to injury, the divorce financially devastated me. I lost my beautiful home and 1/2 my retirement to a greedy, self-centered man who sat home and drank rather than hold down a job.
Now I am trying to get over the anger and loss. You lose more than just the marriage and the stuff. You lose in-laws, mutual friends, pets, memories of life events. You grieve, think you're over it, get angry and grieve some more. Forgiving doesn't bring comfort because the scars and reminders are still there.
So now I am starting over with a zero balance. He sits pretty with his home paid for and plenty of my hard-earned dollars in a retirement fund. While I, at age 58, feel like I am at the bottom of a very steep hill. Do I have the strength to climb to the top again? I will be working well past retirement and don't expect to ever own a home again.
I am trying to look at it from a different viewpoint....I just bought myself a new life. Yeah, it was very expensive, but I deserve it.
I am free to move on, live where I want, how I want, with someone who appreciates me for the extraordinary woman that I am.
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What can I say that none of us don't already know?
February 9, 2011 - 12:31pmMy divorce was my choice. Sixteen years married to an alcoholic who didn't work and I couldn't take it any more despite the counseling and excuses. It just sucked the life out of me.
Then, to add insult to injury, the divorce financially devastated me. I lost my beautiful home and 1/2 my retirement to a greedy, self-centered man who sat home and drank rather than hold down a job.
Now I am trying to get over the anger and loss. You lose more than just the marriage and the stuff. You lose in-laws, mutual friends, pets, memories of life events. You grieve, think you're over it, get angry and grieve some more. Forgiving doesn't bring comfort because the scars and reminders are still there.
So now I am starting over with a zero balance. He sits pretty with his home paid for and plenty of my hard-earned dollars in a retirement fund. While I, at age 58, feel like I am at the bottom of a very steep hill. Do I have the strength to climb to the top again? I will be working well past retirement and don't expect to ever own a home again.
I am trying to look at it from a different viewpoint....I just bought myself a new life. Yeah, it was very expensive, but I deserve it.
I am free to move on, live where I want, how I want, with someone who appreciates me for the extraordinary woman that I am.
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