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I see all the advice points to communication, but what if he just refuses? I adore my bf, he is late diagnosed aspergers, I too have issues and could even be on the spectrum myself, we misread each others messages and misunderstand each other often,and cant seem to find resolve ever, so the same issues (mostly from me feeling like he doesnt want me), keep reading their ugly heads, I've tried explaining how rejected or hurt I feel sometimes and that all it would take is a kind word or reassurance if I ever tell him I'm low,but I never get that even when I ask, and sometimes he can be very hurtful, or misread a message then a row occurs and I'm accused of starting or attacking him, I know I am emotional and needy, I have deep issues I've tried getting help for, but if I could get resolve in my relationship situation somehow I'm sure things would improve all round, I just dont know how to communicate with him like first we did, things were so different, he was interested in listening or seemed to be then, now he takes no interest of finding a way for us to understand each other a bit, I've tried self help books for couples on the spectrum and audio books, most say about telling them how you feel and what you would like from them but he either gets mad at me or ignores me if I attempt that. I dont know what to do. I dont want to give up, but I cant constantly be in this stressed state and I know he gets stressed too which hurts me also, should I just throw in the towel and walk away? He says he loves me too and wants to be with me, but wint ever see that means we have to try to be considerate, he wont accept he could be doing anything that would necessitate that. Please any advice welcome.

October 31, 2019 - 8:50am

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