I FEEL YOUR PAIN. DIDN'T KNOW ABOUT ASPIES WHEN MARRIED OVER 25 YEARS AGO TO HIGH FUNCTIONING ASPIE WHO TEACHES PSYCHOLOGY OF ALL THINGS -- IN DENIAL THAT HE WAS ASPIE UNTIL OUR DAUGHTER WAS DIAGNOSED. CAN BE LONELY -- VERY LONELY IF EXPECNATIONS OF ROMANCE ARE IMPORTANT. THAT ENDED FOR US RIGHT AFTER THE HONEYMOON BECAUSE I DIDN'T KNOW HOW TO SUPPORT HIM AND WAS INSECURE EXPECTING HIM TO BE LIKE OTHER HUSBANDS. HE SHUT DOWN UNTIL I STARTED LOVING HIM UNCONDITIONALLY AND TRUSTING THAT HE LOVES ME W/O ALL THE BELLS AND WHISTLES. HAD TO BE MORE ASSERTIVE TOO ROMANTICALLY IF FEELING NEGLECT AND HAVE TO QUICKLY FORGIVE COMMENTS HE MIGHT MAKE ... BOY THAT WAS TOUGH... HAVE TO BUY MY OWN PRESENTS AT CHRISTMAS OR FORGO -- HA , HE JUST DOESN'T GET THAT STUFF. BUT WHAT A KIND, FAITHFUL, HONEST MAN AND WONDERFUL FATHER. AND HE KNOWS ME WELL !!! IT IS MORE LIKE A "YIN AND YANG" SYMBOL OUR RELATIONSHIP ... WHERE HE ENDS I BEGIN ... AS BIBLE BELIEVING CHRISTIANS OUR MARRIAGE WORKS BUT ONLY RECENTLY HAS IT GOTTEN BETTER SINCE I TOOK RESPONSIBILITY TO BE CLEAR AND CONSTRUCTIVE -- TREATING HIM LIKE I DO MY DAUGHTER IN COMMUNICATION WITH THE GOAL ALWAYS ABOUT HELPING HIM. SHE IS SO LIKE HIM BUT DONE FEEL SORRY AS OUR HAPPY DAUGHTER EARNED A FREE RIDE TO UNIVERSITY AS SHE IS BRILLIANT AND LIKE HIM BEAUTIFUL AND VERY MORAL AND KIND AND MOTIVATED/FOCUSED. THANKFULLY SHE HAS FOUND HER CALLING IN PHYSICS. AND I THINK OF THEIR ASPIE TRAITS AS THEIR SUPERPOWER NOW ... BEAUTIFUL WITH FUN QUIRKY SENSE OF HUMOR . SHE HAS HELPED ME TO UNDERSTAND HIM BETTER AND ACCEPT THEIR NON VERVAL LASTING DEVOTION. LOVE NEVER FAILS FOLKS...NEVER .... ONE DAY AT A TIME AND NO LOVE YOU GIVE IS WAISTED IN GODS SIGHT EVEN IF YOUR FEELINGS SAY OTHERWISE CAUSE FEELINGS CAN LIE IF THEY ARE SELF ORIENTED. IVE HAD TO KNOW MY VALUE COMES FROM WHO I AM IN CHRIST JESUS AND NOT THIS WORLDS FAIRY-TALE COUNTERFEIT OF ROMANCE. ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE THROUGH CHRIST WHO STRENGTHENS US ... AND NOW THERE IS JOY AND PEACE AGAIN
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I FEEL YOUR PAIN. DIDN'T KNOW ABOUT ASPIES WHEN MARRIED OVER 25 YEARS AGO TO HIGH FUNCTIONING ASPIE WHO TEACHES PSYCHOLOGY OF ALL THINGS -- IN DENIAL THAT HE WAS ASPIE UNTIL OUR DAUGHTER WAS DIAGNOSED. CAN BE LONELY -- VERY LONELY IF EXPECNATIONS OF ROMANCE ARE IMPORTANT. THAT ENDED FOR US RIGHT AFTER THE HONEYMOON BECAUSE I DIDN'T KNOW HOW TO SUPPORT HIM AND WAS INSECURE EXPECTING HIM TO BE LIKE OTHER HUSBANDS. HE SHUT DOWN UNTIL I STARTED LOVING HIM UNCONDITIONALLY AND TRUSTING THAT HE LOVES ME W/O ALL THE BELLS AND WHISTLES. HAD TO BE MORE ASSERTIVE TOO ROMANTICALLY IF FEELING NEGLECT AND HAVE TO QUICKLY FORGIVE COMMENTS HE MIGHT MAKE ... BOY THAT WAS TOUGH... HAVE TO BUY MY OWN PRESENTS AT CHRISTMAS OR FORGO -- HA , HE JUST DOESN'T GET THAT STUFF. BUT WHAT A KIND, FAITHFUL, HONEST MAN AND WONDERFUL FATHER. AND HE KNOWS ME WELL !!! IT IS MORE LIKE A "YIN AND YANG" SYMBOL OUR RELATIONSHIP ... WHERE HE ENDS I BEGIN ... AS BIBLE BELIEVING CHRISTIANS OUR MARRIAGE WORKS BUT ONLY RECENTLY HAS IT GOTTEN BETTER SINCE I TOOK RESPONSIBILITY TO BE CLEAR AND CONSTRUCTIVE -- TREATING HIM LIKE I DO MY DAUGHTER IN COMMUNICATION WITH THE GOAL ALWAYS ABOUT HELPING HIM. SHE IS SO LIKE HIM BUT DONE FEEL SORRY AS OUR HAPPY DAUGHTER EARNED A FREE RIDE TO UNIVERSITY AS SHE IS BRILLIANT AND LIKE HIM BEAUTIFUL AND VERY MORAL AND KIND AND MOTIVATED/FOCUSED. THANKFULLY SHE HAS FOUND HER CALLING IN PHYSICS. AND I THINK OF THEIR ASPIE TRAITS AS THEIR SUPERPOWER NOW ... BEAUTIFUL WITH FUN QUIRKY SENSE OF HUMOR . SHE HAS HELPED ME TO UNDERSTAND HIM BETTER AND ACCEPT THEIR NON VERVAL LASTING DEVOTION. LOVE NEVER FAILS FOLKS...NEVER .... ONE DAY AT A TIME AND NO LOVE YOU GIVE IS WAISTED IN GODS SIGHT EVEN IF YOUR FEELINGS SAY OTHERWISE CAUSE FEELINGS CAN LIE IF THEY ARE SELF ORIENTED. IVE HAD TO KNOW MY VALUE COMES FROM WHO I AM IN CHRIST JESUS AND NOT THIS WORLDS FAIRY-TALE COUNTERFEIT OF ROMANCE. ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE THROUGH CHRIST WHO STRENGTHENS US ... AND NOW THERE IS JOY AND PEACE AGAIN
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