Jon, you undoubtably are very high functioning. First NA have a brain that is different and self motivation is an area that is very weak and at times non existant. You have a self motivated personality to direct your obcession in a way that supports your family and your wife. So, realize that the majority of Aspie's don't. Your much different.
Directing your interests twards relationhsips and psychology is a good way for you to keep your desire for intellect met and help your marriage at the same time. Again, that takes self motivation!
Most that I've known will learn lots about a subject and never really do anything about it. Intimacy is much different with a NA. Us NT can't understand it. For instance many NA only like to talk about sex, watch it, read it, and aren't really motivated to have it. Either that or they are obcessed about it. In my case that was a big issues, sex was an act to him, it was connection to me. It never felt intimate.
It's great that you beat the odds and seem to be able to continue a marraige, your in the 5% of those that can.
Your proactive measure are very rare. Again, your outside of the norm on NA behaviors.
As for me, I went crazy and was so depressed b/c I had to pull the bulk of the load, him not following through with said agreements, and me suffering greatly. My health suffered and I'd become a shell of a woman. He is happier alone. I'm finally after 5 years getting back to knowing myself again. As for my dad, well he will not ever change and his greed and narc's entitlement will continue until he dies.
Your a great example of what could happen. Certainly not what most often happens. <3
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Jon, you undoubtably are very high functioning. First NA have a brain that is different and self motivation is an area that is very weak and at times non existant. You have a self motivated personality to direct your obcession in a way that supports your family and your wife. So, realize that the majority of Aspie's don't. Your much different.
Directing your interests twards relationhsips and psychology is a good way for you to keep your desire for intellect met and help your marriage at the same time. Again, that takes self motivation!
Most that I've known will learn lots about a subject and never really do anything about it. Intimacy is much different with a NA. Us NT can't understand it. For instance many NA only like to talk about sex, watch it, read it, and aren't really motivated to have it. Either that or they are obcessed about it. In my case that was a big issues, sex was an act to him, it was connection to me. It never felt intimate.
It's great that you beat the odds and seem to be able to continue a marraige, your in the 5% of those that can.
Your proactive measure are very rare. Again, your outside of the norm on NA behaviors.
As for me, I went crazy and was so depressed b/c I had to pull the bulk of the load, him not following through with said agreements, and me suffering greatly. My health suffered and I'd become a shell of a woman. He is happier alone. I'm finally after 5 years getting back to knowing myself again. As for my dad, well he will not ever change and his greed and narc's entitlement will continue until he dies.
Your a great example of what could happen. Certainly not what most often happens. <3
August 26, 2016 - 10:25amThis Comment
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