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Angaroo,

Here's the truth: You can't control him. You are getting more anxious and fearful because you know this and you have found out some disturbing things about him.

I think you are right to be concerned. There are some communication issues between you, aren't there? He's not completely honest with you, and you feel the need to keep many things to yourself. This can be super hard to deal with when you have worries about how things are going.

I have to tell you to trust your innermost instinct, your gut feeling. If you feel like there is something to worry about, there probably is. (And that can be the case even when you love him and he loves you.)

It might be really hard to fix this. His background is that he has had girlfriends cheat on him, so he's extra worried about you. Your background is that he's the first person you've been with, and you're scared to lose him. That makes you feel vulnerable instead of strong. It probably makes you feel needier than you used to. And the more you feel like everything revolves around him, the needier you get.

Does any of that sound true?

Can the two of you have an honest, open, frank conversation about all of this? (Including the things you know but haven't told him?)