What a blessing that the children are doing so well. I nearly got tears in my eyes when I read about you and your daughter symbolically throwing your wedding-day jewelry in the lake. That's so profound.
Children are absolutely amazing. The fact that your son has dealt with it and is moving on is phenomenal. (I could use a bit of his ability to compartmentalize!) I'm wistful for you that the 9-year-old is having some difficulty, especially the horrible nightmares. I imagine that this makes you feel even worse. But you CANNOT feel personally guilty or responsible for that. And bless her heart, she has a super-strong foundation with you, her father and her siblings, and all of that unit is still intact. I hope that as each day passes, she can put a little more distance between herself and her fears.
Hang in there. You are doing an awesome job. Even if it doesn't always feel like it. You are.
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Kristin,
What a blessing that the children are doing so well. I nearly got tears in my eyes when I read about you and your daughter symbolically throwing your wedding-day jewelry in the lake. That's so profound.
Children are absolutely amazing. The fact that your son has dealt with it and is moving on is phenomenal. (I could use a bit of his ability to compartmentalize!) I'm wistful for you that the 9-year-old is having some difficulty, especially the horrible nightmares. I imagine that this makes you feel even worse. But you CANNOT feel personally guilty or responsible for that. And bless her heart, she has a super-strong foundation with you, her father and her siblings, and all of that unit is still intact. I hope that as each day passes, she can put a little more distance between herself and her fears.
Hang in there. You are doing an awesome job. Even if it doesn't always feel like it. You are.
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