Oh, I have been there also. I will never forget 02/12/08. I slept in my bedroom (alone) every night with fear of him while we were still together. I was in such fear that I slept with a knife underneath my pillow. I have to admit that this period of time (living with him) was much worse then getting the protection order.
When you have had enough, you know and you get the strength to move on. This is very recent and no, the fear does not go away quickly. The best thing you can do now is prepare yourself. If he contacts you IN ANYWAY, you call the police IMMEDIATELY! Did you hear me, IMMEDIATELY. Every single time he contacts you, he will be punished by the courts and you need this to happen because in my case, he never stopped contacting me even after 10 months. I called the police every single time until he finally gave up and now a few years have passed.
Yes, there are help groups and I am going to send you some information very soon, probably tomorrow. I had a great one that I know is national. Let me pull out the things I received from a help group in Ohio and get back to you. One thing I would do immediately, buy a few of those pre-paid cell phones (they are cheap) and strategically place them in different areas of your home. I don't want to place fear on you, I just want you to be prepared. If he is law enforcement, he may have lost his right to bear arms also. Do you know if that is the case?
I will write to you more tomorrow, let me pull out all the things I had and groups that were very helpful to me. Please feel free to write me any time also privately, if you would like. I know exactly how you feel and know what you are going through. Your not alone, just remember that it does get better in time.
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Hi Kristin,
Oh, I have been there also. I will never forget 02/12/08. I slept in my bedroom (alone) every night with fear of him while we were still together. I was in such fear that I slept with a knife underneath my pillow. I have to admit that this period of time (living with him) was much worse then getting the protection order.
When you have had enough, you know and you get the strength to move on. This is very recent and no, the fear does not go away quickly. The best thing you can do now is prepare yourself. If he contacts you IN ANYWAY, you call the police IMMEDIATELY! Did you hear me, IMMEDIATELY. Every single time he contacts you, he will be punished by the courts and you need this to happen because in my case, he never stopped contacting me even after 10 months. I called the police every single time until he finally gave up and now a few years have passed.
Yes, there are help groups and I am going to send you some information very soon, probably tomorrow. I had a great one that I know is national. Let me pull out the things I received from a help group in Ohio and get back to you. One thing I would do immediately, buy a few of those pre-paid cell phones (they are cheap) and strategically place them in different areas of your home. I don't want to place fear on you, I just want you to be prepared. If he is law enforcement, he may have lost his right to bear arms also. Do you know if that is the case?
I will write to you more tomorrow, let me pull out all the things I had and groups that were very helpful to me. Please feel free to write me any time also privately, if you would like. I know exactly how you feel and know what you are going through. Your not alone, just remember that it does get better in time.
With a big heart,
June 12, 2010 - 11:20amMissie
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