Help me understand a little bit better...you went from having sex four times a day to none at all? Four times in a day is not only a lot of pressure to perform on a 35 year old man, but I can see how it could get "old" after a year. I know you think that a 35 year old man should be at his prime but actually, many would argue that a man's prime occurs in their early twenty's.
I agree with you about sex being important in a relationship-- but you shouldn't let this be ALL your relationship is about. A 35 year old man requires stimulation mentally as well as physically. You were definitely providing physical stimulation but I wonder if mentally he and you were being fulfilled? Now that you are not having sex, has he been avoiding you completely? Has he seemed distant? or is he trying to connect with you in other ways other than sex?
I'm not disregarding the possibility of there being someone else in his life but I do think you should give him the benefit of the doubt and try talking about it like two adults-- not as though you're whining about not having sex. You will probably get more out of him that way than you have up 'til this point. Good Luck, please keep us posted.
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KathyStewart--
Help me understand a little bit better...you went from having sex four times a day to none at all? Four times in a day is not only a lot of pressure to perform on a 35 year old man, but I can see how it could get "old" after a year. I know you think that a 35 year old man should be at his prime but actually, many would argue that a man's prime occurs in their early twenty's.
I agree with you about sex being important in a relationship-- but you shouldn't let this be ALL your relationship is about. A 35 year old man requires stimulation mentally as well as physically. You were definitely providing physical stimulation but I wonder if mentally he and you were being fulfilled? Now that you are not having sex, has he been avoiding you completely? Has he seemed distant? or is he trying to connect with you in other ways other than sex?
I'm not disregarding the possibility of there being someone else in his life but I do think you should give him the benefit of the doubt and try talking about it like two adults-- not as though you're whining about not having sex. You will probably get more out of him that way than you have up 'til this point. Good Luck, please keep us posted.
February 2, 2010 - 8:20amThis Comment
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