I recognise your stories of the lack of relating to an AS parent. As a child you have emotional and physical needs of protection that an AS parent won't understand. For eg I got anorexia at age 14 after the stress of my AS mother joining a cult and allowing the cult to brainwash my siblings. She never asked me what was wrong, why I lost weight, or how I felt, she only once got annoyed that I was eating special and expensive food. I never had an emotional attachment to my mother, and that had to do with her AS, not that I was unloveable or unrelatable as a child.
What helps to heal is a good therapy. I had to really rebuild myself, and understand that I had the same value as any other person, that I have the right to exist, and that emotions are the fundament of a person, not superflous nonsense as my mother interpreted emotional expressions and needs... So there is some self-esteem work and emotional healing to be done if you know you have been damaged by an AS parent's lack of relating to you. It takes time, but it's very liberating.
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I recognise your stories of the lack of relating to an AS parent. As a child you have emotional and physical needs of protection that an AS parent won't understand. For eg I got anorexia at age 14 after the stress of my AS mother joining a cult and allowing the cult to brainwash my siblings. She never asked me what was wrong, why I lost weight, or how I felt, she only once got annoyed that I was eating special and expensive food. I never had an emotional attachment to my mother, and that had to do with her AS, not that I was unloveable or unrelatable as a child.
What helps to heal is a good therapy. I had to really rebuild myself, and understand that I had the same value as any other person, that I have the right to exist, and that emotions are the fundament of a person, not superflous nonsense as my mother interpreted emotional expressions and needs... So there is some self-esteem work and emotional healing to be done if you know you have been damaged by an AS parent's lack of relating to you. It takes time, but it's very liberating.
January 9, 2011 - 2:28amThis Comment
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